lemmy.world is basically the fediverse version of Reddit from what I’ve experienced in terms of overall culture.

including your allegedly heinous example of bonding with a widow because you also lost your SO! Can you imagine?! Humans bonding over a common experience?

I used that example, because I am a widow myself. My fiance passed a few years ago. I don’t mean to imply people do this out of malice, just that they try to “make you feel better” by relating to your grief, but unfortunately grief doesn’t work like that. When I am grieving, more than anything I’m just looking for someone to listen and understand, not try and tell me “it’s normal” or “this happens to everyone, don’t feel so bad”, because as genuine and heartfelt that sentiment is it is not helpful. I’m not immune to it either, I met a man on the bus who’d lost his daughter, and my first reaction was to mention my fiance rather than listen and let him let it out. I realized what I was doing and reflected about it later, I saw how he reacted and how sharing that type of pain doesn’t mitigate it, what you really want is to talk to someone without comparing tragedy. There is a time and place for that, but not in those moments of grief and pain.

Yes, I mentioned that explicitly in my comment, did you read all of it? I never said that it was okay for that type of thing to happen to men, and that we should talk about it. And just like with letting women have the floor, we should allow men to have it when the convo is centered on that issue. I don’t see what the issue with giving each issue their own time and space is, we need to have focus if we’re talking about two very different, yet similar scenarios, in order to have some kind of real way to find a solution proper to both.

Of course everyone has varying experiences, I’m not trying to flatten that fact. When I say “typical” I’m refering to the fact that these types of incidents are more prevailent as an experience by women under the subjegation of a patriarchical culture that gives males a disproportionate amount pf privilege and status in such a society. I myself mentioned in my original post that it isn’t right for this to happen to men any more than women, but I think it’s disingenuous to claim these are equivalent experiences. I mentioned minorities and prejudice, and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to state that racism against white people, while it does exist, is a much different thing then what is experienced by minorities. Trying to create a false dichotomy equating male’s experience of sexual harrassment with women’s undermines the severity of the problem by trying to act like it’s a gender neutral issue, it isn’t. We can address both, but it would be wrong to conflate both as the same, we can draw parallels and definitely see lessons from each’s perspective, but we can’t paint both with a broad brush if we want to address what is the core issue with both.

I’ve seen the worst from both sides. Everyone with either a testicle or an ovary can sit right the fuck down.

But that’s just it, right? Your experience is an outlier in the typical male experience. I myself have never experienced those kinds of things, but I am sorry you have.

The problem is, that women experience these types of things far more than men do. It is wrong that it happens to males as well, but that type of sentiment (hey, guys have it bad too!) is exactly why the slogans “All Lives Matter” versus “Black Lives Matter” is a huge deflection on a problematic issue.

Sure, all lives matter, but when there is a disproportionate amount of black people having actions happen that put their lives in danger, re-framing the argument only serves to obscure that reality even further.

I think it’s important to realize there is a time and place for grievance, and when it is someone trying to relate their struggle, it isn’t helpful to mention “well yeah, I have it bad too”. Imagine saying that to a widower: “you lost your wife? I lost my husband and my son!” Comparing burdens does nothing to address the suffering of another, and it doesn’t bring to light the scope of the issue when it is a group that experiences more adversity than another.

The fact of the matter is, we live in a male-dominated society, and as such we experience a much, much different reality than women do. Same with minority ethnic groups. And to marginalize those already marginalized groups even further by bringing up our (very real at times) struggles feels like a slight to them.

I do believe that there is a very real need to talk about toxic attitudes held towards things that happen towards men, which is important because it is mainly due to our status, these issues are all too often swept under the rug or minimized because those things “don’t happen to men”. That is wrong, and is a very real problem.

Ugh, so true. The insidious nature of Steam is the fact that they’re basically a PC gaming business monopoly, but they’re benign compared to other corporations, so gamers tend to turn a blind eye to that fact, or find various grasping ways to convince themselves otherwise (there’s still Epic and GOG! etc). The fact that 80%+ of PC game sales are through Steam doesn’t seem to faze or disturb them, when it most definitely should. What happens when Steam drops the facade? I imagine it won’t be long before Steam turns into the badguy.

Do what? Remind me of the babe

I find it incredibly fascinating that many people in the West can make the connection that their own governments regularly lie and deceive them, but can’t accept that, maybe, just maybe, the same governments are lying about the Chinese government. It’s astonishing to see the contradiction there. Like, perhaps since you are well aware that your own government isn’t completely honest, why would you not question other narratives that are pushed by that same government?

No worries! I’m right there with you. I’ve been juggling a lot lately.

Pico-8 is fantastic! One of my favorite projects on itch. I just beat the Pico-8 version of Celeste, and Celeste 2 as well. There’s so many great hidden gems on Pico. My favs are Celeste (of course) Pinballvania, Stabbycrabby, Driplogic and Puzzles of the Paladin. I’m always finding interesting stuff through the random section with splore. I’m thinking about learning lua and fiddling around with making a game on Pico someday.

Definitely! It’s always nice to meet like-minded folks, especially across a range of interests. I’m also into tabletop roleplaying (actually created a new community for one shot rpgs here: https://lemmy.ml/c/Every_Post_Is_An_RPG) and love reading (literary stuff, but also genre stuff at times, reading a Discoworld novel by Pratchett currently called The Truth).

Maybe you can sticky a general discussion thread, even if it’s seldom used, at least it can facilitate some discussion, especially if there is bandes dessinees chat that isn’t thread worthy.

(Man, Lemmy comments aren’t as suited to Play by Post as Discord is. I’ll have to work out the kinks next time. My intention was also to have each game last for roughly a week, so I figured we’d wrap it up with your guy’s next interactions.)

I responded to your last post to @chetradley@lemm.ee, I figured you guys could finally meet and we will wrap things up. My idea was for each game to be a week or two. The last few interactions can be a montage of sorts for a satisfying way to conclude things ;)

(Man, Lemmy comments aren’t as suited to Play by Post as Discord is. I’ll have to work out the kinks next time. My intention was also to have each game last for roughly a week, so I figured we’d wrap it up with your guy’s next interactions.)

Bobbing up in down, with a slight dazed look, the electric woman weakly waves at you,“Hi bird guy! Are you ok up there? I’m just gonna float here a bit…”

With a loud POP! The woman flies out of the tree, knocking into the robot and thrusting both her and the robot into the harbor. She and the robot plunge into the water, scaring the seagulls away. The robot thrashes wildly, and a current carries it out to the mouth of the harbor. Below you is the electric woman, bobbing in the water, looking slightly dazed.

(Sorry for the delay) Roll of 4, +1 for Over-charged batteries

With a flash, sizzle, you focus a current into the batteries. But the current is TOO MUCH! The batteries begin to sizzle and then with a loud POP! EXPLODE! Sending you flying like a torpedo out of the tree, spinning out of control towards the staggering robot’s posterior. You collide with the robot, causing you and the robot to fly towards the harbor, the seagulls fly away in a panic as you and the robot narrowly miss the flock and plunge into the water. The robot’s squeaker sputters out in a series of watery, faint squeaks, and then finally subsides, as the robot thrashes wildly in the water, bobbing up and down, but unable to keep itself from drifting out, out, out and into the mouth of the harbor. submerged in the water, you feel short-circuited, but thankfully not covered in refuse anymore. Above you dangles the bird-man, his foot caught in a rope like a stirrup…

In 2001, at 16 years old, I snagged a brand new Dreamcast with five or six games for dirt cheap from a local game store. The DC had already been discontinued at that point, the PS2 was about to launch or just did, and retailers were just offloading the Dreamcast merch. Shenmue was one of those games, and was the game I ended up spending the most time with. There really just wasn’t anything like it, it was this epic action story of loss and revenge with this sprawling open world with all kinds of sidequests, mini-games and interesting NPCs to explore. The most painful thing for me at the time was the damn cliffhanger at the end, and I never ended up getting a chance to play Shenmue 2 (I think it only made it’s way stateside on Xbox). It was definitely a memorable, once-in-a-lifetime experience. There were flaws, to be sure, but they were easily overlooked due to the expansive, ambitious nature of the game.

Honestly, after developing a bad alcohol habit for awhile, I question a lot of the accepted wisdom of what constitutes addiction. There’s a huge contingent of people in the recovery industry who claim that drug and alcohol addiction is a ‘disease’, but in opposition to that line of thinking are other psychologists and scientists who disagree with that designation. To those that don’t accept te disease model, alcohol and drug addiction is a matter of maladaptive behavior. People make a choice, and because of the degree of physical dependency involved in drug use those bad choices are hard to break out of. The bottom line though, is we have a choice, no matter how hard it is to make it in the face of a powerful substance and ingrained behaviors. I do think that people need guidance when they develop these types of addictions, but not the type that is commonly recommended and proscribed for addiction (namely treatment and recovery centers). For me the thing that helped me the most was seeing a counselor and figuring out why I behaved the way I did, and how to make changes to my thinking to stop engaging in those behaviors. This entire country really needs reckoning to change how we deal with and overcome addictions and the way we think about them, as the way they are currently thought about is at best unhelpful, and at worst, dangerous.

When big Tech, especially the biggest video platform in the world, does something like this it is relevant to tech. The better question is, if you do support lgbtq+ people, why the public freakout about mentioning a far reaching tech policy, by one of the biggest (if not THE biggest) tech company in the world, on a tech sub?

nazis and fascists, without ever knowing what those words even mean

I am Jack’s complete lack of self awareness

Sure, if your issue is that it’s okay for corporations to remove protections for hate speech towards marginalized groups, then yes, go get bent. This kind of false equivalence between normalizing hate and ostraciszing progressives for speaking out against oppression is EXACTLY what we’re fighting against. What in the hell is the ‘rhetoric’ do you disagree with? Having empathy for lgbtq+ people? Jesus. If so, this is definitely not the place for you.

Wow. There’s a huge disparity between the brows on those two. No matter how blurry the first pics are, the thickness of Luigi’s brows would be noticeable. The person in that camera footage definitely doesn’t have thick eyebrows like Luigi :/

That’s my point, you can break your own record, but the media and public will be desensitized to it after the first time, sadly most people will tune out after the novelty has passed.

I’m not disparaging him, as much as I am calling into question the timing of it. Any pushback at all is welcome, but it just seems to me to be poorly timed in terms of effectiveness.

I guess we’ll see what kind of effect this has afterwards and if it has a positive outcome.

I didn’t say one did preclude the other. My point is that if you’re going to do something historic that, by it’s unusual and uncommon nature, gets you more attention then usual, why wouldn’t you use that gesture to BOTH protest, and filibuster a bill that will put more attention on the bill because of the historic nature of the filibuster?

And yes, by all means, continue to filibuster and stymie the admin’s progress by filibustering whenever possible. However, the American public are notoriously short of attention, especially when something has already been done before, that subsequent filibusters won’t have the same impact as the original, especially when you have outlets like Fox that can just spin it towards being not worth notice because “same old shit by the dems”. People will eventually tune out, and the opportunity to really amp up the pressure on the Republicans will be lost.