Than you should know that if your daughter gets raped she will think about what you said about the thing she was doing at the time of her rape and she will feel guilty.
By questioning a victims choices you are legitamizing their rape, a message heard loud and clear by the perpetrater as well. No amount of “off course it is never okay” is going to change what message you are sending.
Could you please make a list for us dumb women so we can know what we can do without getting raped? We clearly need some help building our own prisons here.
Did it ever cross your mind that in order to live a free life we HAVE TO live with the risks that come with it?
If i look at the statistics the whole world is a fucking no go zone for us.
Maybe don’t call them assholes for that.
I am not from tge US but it’s so frustrating, we really shouldn’t support this infighting. Anyone still supporting Israel IS disgusting, people are rightfully pissed of about this.
I still believe that there is no way forward other than voting Dem but the infighting and namecalling and belitteling of each other is infuriating.
This really just feels like another devide method of the ruling class.
If you want to beat the Rep you need more solidarity in the left wing and this starts by communicating like adults.
Like most people in all of history we wouldn’t have opposed the normalized oppression of other people, yes this is a fact.
But you are saying people during slavery were wrong for voting in favor of less slavery because it didn’t start with full human rights for slaves so they shouldn’t have voted at all.
People aren’t spineless for believing in a different strategy and even if they where, you are not selling your point of view very well. The sucess of your strategy would mean conving enough people not to vote and just name calling is not doing much.
There is the obvious Problem of all democracies and especially the US System but i don’t really see how more power to republicans will ever come close solving this.
I am very open to all kinds of strategies but i have yet to see any kind of data that suggests even more fascism will lead to a better outcome.
We really need to distinguish between “stupid” opinions and “stupid” people.
Very smart people can hold very stupid opinions in some aspects and the average person will certainly hold some stupid ass opinions not necessarily restricted to “spirituality”.
My uncle was top of his class but fell for every mlm he encounterd, my dad is a capable businessman but believes a cut up onion in the window will get all viruses out of the air. I have so many examples like that.
So half of women aren’t stupid but probably 100% of all people hold at least one stupid “believe” i think.
Not the people, industries do that.
People are very good at adopting whatever and thats mostly fine. Nobody is forced to partake in the corporate stuff. I also think its a bit unfair to westerners, we would like some culture too and we would not like to be restrained to christianity or the celtic stuff (that i personally like) but is very popular with nazis as well. In general living in the middle of europe everything native to my culture always feels a bit right wingey which many obviously dislike.
Being part of a foreign religion doesn’t make it non bullshitty though. I will not just shit on any religion that i didn’t grow up with but you can’t argue that there aren’t people everywhere commercializing and using religion in their own interest.
Its really not that easy.
Don’t be a dick and let others be their kind of weird is in general good advice but you can make fun of someone without being a dick and “their kind of weird” might turn into something harmful.
It might be okay, not okay or there might even be a need to ridicule certain ideas depending on the situation.
If don’t think it is reasonable to expect the public to entertain any ridiculous idea at all times, if you want to voice your believes/opinions you will have to let others do the same and they might not be nice about it. But lets be honest here a lot of “believes” aren’t that nice themselves so…
I don’t think this means they are actually pulling out.
Its unclear to me if the 36% is bc they already have the tech so they don’t plan to invest further and new adoption don’t happen bc everyone who “needs” it already has it or if the ones who have it are planning to get rid of it.
To me it just sounds like the people at the top didn’t foresee the problems that actually arise in a real world setting and their overconfidence gets adjusted to a more reasonable outlook but the self checkout will not go anywhere, 36% is still a pretty big number, self checkout might just not be feasible for a lot of places in the first place.
I see it being implemented in more places not less, they are just finetuning it now.
The sexualization is not a problem on its own the objectification that often comes along with it is as well as the “unspoken” rule that only allows conventionally attractive people to be viewed in a sexual context.
People don’t lose their personhood by being, acting or shown in a sexual context but many do absolutely not view it that way.
The problem i see is that since this mostly happens in visual media without context all meaning it could have is more often than not lost. If sexual content was created with a positive attitude we would see much more diversity. It is very obvious that it caters to people objectifying the protagonists and therefore its not that easy to blatantly approve of it.
This should off course not translate to shaming people in general but it should trigger nuanced debate and action.
Those examples proof my point though? It was a WHOLE COUNTRY organizing a boycott where even the industry is in in it with a specific goal and easily available alternatives with very little discomfort. Its not all american products either.
So you have a big enough number of people all at once who are pissed of enough that they are willing to join and i remind you not because they morally object what the US does to other peoole but because they threatened war and imposed tarifs hurting them directly a lot very fast. I also highly doubt that this boycott started by canadians shaming each other into boycotting.
Single individuals not using a product and the “organizing” being limited by just telling others they are not living by their principles by using it lacks any real world impact. And i am not even disagreeing that we should consume as ethically as possible i am saying looking at it from a pragmatic point of view that just shaming people is doing nothing objectivly.
For a real world example where moral “boycotting” worked was the Dunnes Store Strike but again it wasn’t people shaming others into not buying south african goods it was a whole organisation (the union) directing their workers to not handle it and the punishment of the workers got others to join and put pressure on the governtment to finally stop importing goods from south africa. Without a strong union support and focus on a direct goal this wouldn’t have worked at all.
We should talk about real life examples that worked and what they had in common and from there organize stragetic boycotts where there is a goid chance of winning not picking things we personally don’t need or want to use and pretending we are morally superior to others who have on principle the same goals we do.
Yeah sure dude i am sure you are fighting really well in your fantasyworld where people don’t need food and shelter.
I think you need some education on the matter since a “boycott” by individuals is not putting any real pressure on anyone without the numbers and a plan behind it. That is just the truth. That you don’t like it changes nothing.
I highly doubt you are boycotting every single evil corp out there so just like so many you draw the line at your own feet for no reason
Its more important to you to tell everyone how pure YOU are and how stupid they are instead of putting any real effort behind your “boycotting”
I get that its very frustrating watching people throwing money at all these horrible people but the reality is that those horrible people prefere us being mad at each other and you are doing their bidding by playing this game.
We really need to be more pragmatic about this. You can shop at amazon and at the same time support every single regulation against them. We don’t have a youtube or amazon problem we have a structural problem and this doesn’t go away no matter how much you don’t use either of them.
Don’t play into this deviding bullshit. The consumer does not hold enough power just through consumption.
You don’t need to explain yourself instead Talk about the structural problems that actually keep these businesses alive.
Which means no purity culture. BY NOT PUTTING ANY PRESSURE on the first time.
If YOU tell your kids it is special than YOU don’t let them experience it how they naturally would.
Its about the cult of virginity not about you.
Thats why you hammer safe sex into them and that casual encounters are worth your consideration as well. This isn’t a one time discussion, it should be ongoing. It helps if you treat sex like something normal so the kids don’t feel stupid putting on a condome and respect EVERYBODY not just the “good girls” that
Nobody is saying that and that you are still bringing it up lets me doubt your mental capabillities.
SOCIETY should not tell the RAPE VICTIM that the VICTIM is DAMAGED.
Dude you don’t decide if people are respecting their bodies the right way. This IS some puritanical shit.
If you are so fragile that the wrong vag will destroy you than please do your dew dilligence and don’t fuck anyone you haven’t vetted thouroughly. But don’t speak like you have any authority over the rest of us.
First no, my first time wasn’t that great and i sincerly do not care about it at all. I still don’t get why everyone makes such a fuss about it.
Second this is not even what the tweet is about, it speaks about the expectation of young women to guard their virginity like a treasure and if they “fail” to give their virginity (as if it was present), to the perfect partner they somehow “got taken advantage of” and people pretend it changes something fundemantal about the girl.
Rape victims who didn’t have sex before the rape suffer especially under this. On top of the trauma they also get the message that they lost something important, are fundamentally lesser because of a dick that was inside of them.
This tweet is saying men aren’t special enough to take anything important from you just because their dick was inside of you, you aren’t funamentally changed, you don’t need to stress too much about it.
Virginity is just a concept, its not that deep. Otherwise lesbians would be virgins forever.
If she is influenced but coherent enough to have sex with someone willingly without pressure she wouldn’t accuse them of rape afterwards.
Its really not that hard, if you are not sure if someone is fully into it than don’t do it. If you can’t trust yourself to judge a situation correctly than don’t do it.