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Cake day: March 19th, 2025

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  • Yeah, that’s the point I always make. If you don’t have social groups that expose you to new people in a safe, non-sexual environment, you have to work that out first before dreaming of having a relationship. Just go play some boardgames, join a language school, take music classes, join a rec league for your favorite sport. Hell, if absolutely necessary, why not join a Discord server about stuff you’re interested in? I’ve met kind and available girls playing Valorant, even.
    Even if these guys somehow manage to get a few dates going with someone they “picked up”, won’t they just run out of things to talk about if there is nothing but work and social media going on in the guy’s life?


  • What happened to just having hobbies and social groups and then developing genuine relationships there, too? Why are the “male loneliness” advocates acting like picking up girls has ever been the standard for developing a relationship? Just seems like brainrot from watching too many “ripped guy in the beach picking up girls” videos at a young age…
    I have had a bunch of relationships and flings in my life and only like one or two happened through “shooting my shot”, most were friends of friends, school colleagues, large Whatsapp group chats (were a big thing in Brazil for a while), etc.