soyaEnjoyer [they/them, she/her]
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music@hexbear.net•Looking for recommendations — Pride playlistEnglish
141·1 day agotbh i don’t like a single thing about your post
the event is not for you. profiting from us is not for you. the music you’re suggesting honestly feels like you’re taking the piss. you claim to be an ally, but what have you done to help us?
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Chapotraphouse@hexbear.net•This is a mystery 🤔English
19·2 days ago“fear and greed index” is a bit, right? right???
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traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•The Planet Venus - Trans Megathread for May 25 through May 31, 2026English
8·2 days agorose is a lovely name. don’t overthink it
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Chapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Tawantinsuyu - Neo General Megathread for the 24th-31st of May 2026English
3·3 days agoAbsolutely appalled that I used to crush on him tbh.
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traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•The Planet Venus - Trans Megathread for May 25 through May 31, 2026English
12·3 days agoWent to a protest against the ehrc guidance last night and I am tired as shit today. But also kind of pumped.
CW: voice dysphoria
Really wish I could shout without sounding like a fucking man though.
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traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•The Planet Venus - Trans Megathread for May 25 through May 31, 2026English
6·4 days agoi hope you’ll go to an irl trans group and find some community
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diy@hexbear.net•Bath/shower screen replacementEnglish
3·5 days ago(i’ve never replaced a shower screen but i’ve been fixing plumbing and resealing around my bath because my landlord is a landlord)
i would guess that the wall part is actually two parts and that the screws you removed will allow the inner to pull out, exposing some much larger screws which attach the outer to the wall. you might need to pry the inner out if it’s become deformed or corroded
i don’t think that the gray plastic pivot is broken - it’s too symmetrical. the dents are probably guides to lock the screen in the open or closed position. but your new screen will come with fixtures and it probably won’t fit what’s there already. so the existing fixture will need to come off
you’ll also need new silicone sealant to go around the new fixture and a sealant gun to apply it. and gloves. definitely do not forget to wear gloves because that shit will still be under your nails in a week https://www.wikihow.com/Apply-Silicone-Sealant
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traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•The Planet Venus - Trans Megathread for May 25 through May 31, 2026English
2·6 days agooh shit i’m so sorry. maybe there’s a trans/diy sub for your country on r*ddit. or if you’re feeling brave, maybe there’s an irl group that you can get to (it’s absolutely fine if you’re more comfortable introducing yourself as your given name and agab - we all started from the same place)
i hope you can figure something out
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traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•The Planet Venus - Trans Megathread for May 25 through May 31, 2026English
5·6 days agodoes it actually have to be shipped from eu or are you just stressing?
i’m in the uk and normally use unitedpharmacies (ships from hong kong), but i’ve also used rupills (russia) at least twice and probably some others. i never had any sort of issue
it might reassure you to find out what the actual law is about importing medicines and speak with other diy’ers in your country
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traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•The Planet Venus - Trans Megathread for May 25 through May 31, 2026English
7·6 days agonothing to do with your post but here’s a cool website i found haha
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traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•The Planet Venus - Trans Megathread for May 25 through May 31, 2026English
11·6 days agotoday will
spoiler
not
be the day that i start voice training again
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traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•The Planet Venus - Trans Megathread for May 25 through May 31, 2026English
10·6 days agoI’m excited for you. And yes, you do deserve to be happy
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traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•Crassulacean acid metabolism photosynthesis - Trans Megathread for May 18 through May 24, 2026English
8·7 days agoI finally started the process of changing my name legally after 8 years and I already regret it
My first name was given to me. It was my dad’s middle name and I never liked it. I’m not a man and I’m nothing to do with him.
My second was a fem name which I chose myself. I loved it at the time, but it became evident that I wasn’t a woman either. I had the name for 3 years. I kind of miss it, but it’s not me.
My third was a unisex name based on my original name. I couldn’t really explain why I chose it, like it’s objectively bad and there’s at least one absolute demon of a “person” with that name. There was a much better unisex name that I really liked but I felt like I didn’t deserve because I was extremely fucking depressed. But idk, i settled on the shit one and became accustomed to it.
The fash shit continues to get worse and I’m finally (7 year withing list) getting somewhere with the gender clinic so i decided to get my deed polls done and reapply for my driving licence while I still can. I hadn’t really given my name much thought in a few years, so I just autopiloted everything with the shit name, since that’s the one I’ve had for the last 5 years.
Within 2 weeks, I’ve been reminded multiple times of the demon with whom I share a name. My fucking dad decides to get in touch. The EHRC shit dropped, which is truly fucking horrible. Then I’ve interacted with two people who have the name that I actually wanted and it’s all just made me spiral.
So fuck it. I’m having the good name. When my driving licence comes back, I’ll have to immediately reapply with another deed poll for shit -> good name. Then everywhere else will need a different deed poll for dead -> good name. It’ll be a bit annoying, but it’ll be worth it because I am actually allowed to be happy and have nice things.
soyaEnjoyer [they/them, she/her]@hexbear.netOPtofeedback@hexbear.net•The "vaporwave light" and "litely" themes have some jankEnglish
0·1 month agoThanks! It’s caused by
hexbear-global.css, so not a thing that upstream will fix. I should have some time this week to take a look







cw: family / bigotry / vent
coming to the realisation that my mother is never going to see me as anything other than her confused and broken son. she’ll never use my pronouns and it’s been fucking years. or my name. she’ll tolerate but never advocate for me. she’ll continue to consume the slop which tells her that the greatest threat to her safety is a trans person taking a piss and that actually iran and palestine deserved it and disabled people are just lazy and that overexploited workers should just be quiet. i’ll never get through to her politically. she’ll always vote for the worst people possible, parrot the most appalling takes, and assure herself that it’s just politics and that “it was hard for us, too”. she’s the one family member i’m not nc with but i think i’m done.
https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=52u4bA39Wx8