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Cake day: July 13th, 2023

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  • I’ve never been a big fan of Tinder. It’s too hard to figure out who is a real person with the minimal profile info provided. I think you’re generally better off with an app that requires(or at least allows) more effort to create a profile, and/or something a bit more focused than just hookups.

    OKCupid and Feeld are the apps that work best for me. Feeld is more for kinky and/or poly people, so it narrows down the playing field a lot. I think that makes things way easier. Of my current partners, one was on OKC and the other was on Feeld.





  • scops@reddthat.comtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    1 month ago

    Polyamory is a bit like gender identity or sexual orientation. Some people (like me) are just not wired for full-time monogamous nesting relationships in the same way that a straight person isn’t likely to feel sexual attraction to a member of the same sex. Consider how you might feel if your daughter came out as gay, or non-binary. Would your reaction be different?

    She’s still growing and developing. I think one of the biggest changes between our generation (X, Millenial, maybe older end of Z) and the younger generation is that there isn’t this fear or stigma about trying out alternative lifestyles. It doesn’t mean that they are inherently more or less likely to be queer or non-monogamous, it means they are more free to try these identities on and see if they fit with a reduced risk of being socially ostracized.

    It’s very possible that your daughter is just trying this out. Completely independent of your reaction, it is completely feasible that she determines that she (or her partner(s)) figure out that it is not a good fit on her/their own. Regardless of that outcome, your behavior around this will affect your relationship with her. You can be uncomfortable, you can even communicate to her that you are uncomfortable, as long as you still give her space to explore, and I think she will continue to confide in you and trust you with this kind of access into her life as she matures into an adult.

    For what it’s worth, I think most people assume monogamy is a default, but I believe it should be a conscious choice. It is absolutely the best choice for MOST people, but I think we would all be happier if we navigated into our relationship styles based on informed decisions, rather than societal expectations.







  • I loved Death Stranding, but anyone else feel like that guy putting on the bandana might have been Kojima making a little dig at David Hayter?

    The character design looks very reminiscent of the MGS Delta materials we’ve seen, and Hayter has been more open lately about how miffed he was when Kojima dumped him for Kiefer in MGS V. That coupled with how much promo work Hayter has been doing for Delta makes me think it wouldn’t be too surprising if Kojima was annoyed with him.



  • scops@reddthat.comtoScience Memes@mander.xyzLightning bugs!!
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    2 months ago

    My mom grew up in an area of California with no fireflies. When she was a teenager, she went on a cross-country trip with a friend. In the mountains of North Carolina, they were driving along at night when some bugs hit the windshield of their car. They didn’t think much of it… until the bug guts started glowing. Then they screamed.