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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • There’s a lot of merit in the phrase “the truth will set you free.” You can tear down the dam and drain the sea of lies. But when I say the truth, I mean all of it. Your wife has a right to know the whole truth, down to the last detail. To her, your life has to be an open book. She needs to be able to ask you anything and know that you will be honest with her, even if it’s something she’ll be hurt by. In fact, it’s ok to preface answers with something like, "I’m afraid my answer is going to be hurtful but if you really want to know I will tell you.

    I’m not disagreeing with you, but this should start with asking your wife if she wants to know all the details, if there’s any hard lines, if she wants specificities or an outline, or if she’d rather not know it reassess later.


  • Why did you cheat Because you were angry with your wife? Because you like the other woman?

    These are far from the only two reasons. Some people cheat because they are unhappy with their lives generally, outside of a partner, and don’t know why. Some people have impulse control issues. Substance abuse. These are not excuses, but explanations.

    Couple’s therapy is often recommended after infidelity. I think it’s far more important for the person who cheated to start with individual therapy. If you don’t change your behavior you can’t rebuild trust.












  • I generally surf Lemmy first for a while, and then scroll reddit because there is simply more content. I have been participating less and less on Reddit and trying to participate on Lemmy more. But for things like episode discussions for various TV shows, reddit is really the only game right now and I do like trading those.

    Eventually reddit will most likely completely leave my rotation, because they are really trying to make it as shitty as possible.