mrfugu [he/him, any]

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Cake day: January 15th, 2025

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  • Time heals all it doesn’t kill outright 😄. Not sure how late of a bloomer you are (like we talking 30s? 40s?) but I’ve had relationships last years that I got over in weeks and relationships that lasted months that took me years to get past.

    What makes it sting for me is when I feel like I wasn’t given a fair shake. I loved this person and I thought they loved me but it turned out they didn’t even try.

    However, the bottom line for me and in your case is that we never would’ve even gotten that far if the other person didn’t hold a modicum of feeling for us. Everyone has their own hang up’s and perspectives that you may not understand until you’ve been there or see it play out. But still, don’t ever forget that if this person was truly correct for you, they would’ve valued patience and communication to work it out.

    Even if you can identify where you fucked up, unless it was violence, they would’ve at least fought with you about it if they really cared about building a relationship. For me it was saying “I love you” on mdma like a month into dating. It was true I did love her but I’m the odd one out for always being sure of my feelings and should’ve given her more time (she even gave me the chance to take it back the next morning but I was a fool in love). If she was honest with me about how she was feeling we could’ve worked it out but she didn’t and left the country, leaving me to wallow for longer than we had even been together.

    Long ass comment but imma say one more thing: every big love of my life has felt as though it was completely irreplaceable… until the next one comes along. Don’t let that feeling make you give up and don’t let it keep you in a bad relationship. Not only will you find someone that great again, they’ll be even better. I promise.



  • There are lots of evil people in this world, people I wish would disappear and we would be much better off. There’s terrible people who revel in increasing the suffering of others that I wish would get a swift boot to the face and a brain-altering shock.

    But no one alive today attracts my ire, my deepest loathing, my searing hate more than billy boy here. He’s like a smug liberal version of Joe Rogan. Just a completely unempathetic connoisseur of his own flatulence. And worst of all, he actually thinks he’s funny. Even my most lib supreme family members who agree with 99% of what billy says, still hate him because he’s so inhospitable and unfunny.




  • I can’t get past how strange of a hill this is to die on. Though I have to imagine this rhetoric is completely based on optics and mob preference (just like the latin xenophobia). Either that or the state is afraid of us because we don’t fold to social norms and traditions.

    Like I get parents being scared of having disabled kids for the financial strain if nothing else, but like afaik most autistics can be self sufficient and independent with the right developmental help. Compared to a serious physical disability or developmental/degenerative neurological disability it seems kinda silly. I would guess my parents paid more for me to play hockey as a kid than it would cost to provide assistance to the average autistic (with money left over for the kid to be into less expensive activities).

    If we’re looking for preventative mental issues how about we worry about american football first.




  • As an engineer who works with lots of data, I have so much disdain for “dashboards.” Execs spent the last 10-15 years demanding pretty pictures and numbers on a single screen, of which they comprehend very little. Now they wanna shove all that data into an AI so they don’t even have to pretend to look at it. God forbid they ask their employees in the field for their analysis.

    I feel most dashboards can be replaced by a single message to the project manager: “yo is shit fucked today?” “nah” “ok cool”