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  • It depends a lot in which context the “discussion” is taking place.

    • at a dinner table it’s more about small talk and performing… “social grooming” as you would observe it in ape societies.
    • at official events, people either have a job or an established opinion, they are in a stressful environment that does not actually allow them to make rational evaluations
    • in school / academia / media, the particular response and opinion will affect your grade, social standing and future career opportunities

    In all of those situations, it should be obvious why the “dominant” position does need to give an inch, for social reasons.

    Even in absolutely perfect conditions, calm environments, prepared discussion participants, “objective neutrality” towards the outcome, individuals will have different opinions on importance of topics or methods and will discard “details” or see them as irrefutable counter examples.

    Basically, there are lot of (subconscious) things going on that prevent an “objective discussion” from happening. I’m sure you can find specific examples of what could be influencing people in specific circumstances once you look for them.





    1. just pick any of the common recommendations. Mint. Ubuntu, Kubuntu… Just search for “which linux distro is right for me” and look at a few answers and pick one. Most of them work the same way.

    2. you probably can’t use autocad or adobe products. kernel level anticheat is a problem, so games that need that are out.

    3. Yes. …ish.

    There are basically three levels, one where you only click everything and it’s basically an app / wizard as you know them.

    The next level would be that it’s possible that you have manually edit a few text or config files to make things work the way you want to, or the best solution to your problem can be a command line thing. That’s very mostly “not programming”, the command line and manually editing config files can look scary, but most of the time it’s completely harmless. This happens, but it’s rare and it’s mostly simple stuff. The bigger and more used the distro is that you pick, the less you will run into this.

    And then the third level would be “real programming” and basically nobody does that and nobody expects that.

    1. yes, you can dual boot.

    2. Just do it. If you’ve “built” a pc before, it’s the same deal. If you read the manual a tiny bit, it’s like lego. It looks way scarier than it is. And if you look up solutions it is extremely likely that you will find a well researched answer that does solve your problem.








  • How do I make sure not to become this kind of person?

    Just focus on that and you’re good.

    There are two ways to do “bad things” 1. you’re not aware of them being bad (because you never question yourself), 2. you are aware, but you excuse them somehow.

    You have already cleared 1., all you need to do now, is to remain strict with yourself to never do excuse your own bad behavior.

    And to be clear, I don’t mean to constantly blame yourself, I mean “finding excuses to do the bad thing anyway, because this time is an exception”. And it’s also fine to give up on this later if you find you can’t keep it up. It would be disappointing, but any effort in this direction is good, don’t let it dominate you.

    Also, practice harmless small talk. If your colleague is talking drama, try to shift the discussion and bring up their pet or hobby or something.

    then they pretend to be your friend and ask questions about your personal life which I deflect as good as I can.

    I’m sure you can find some old boring topic that you find moderately interesting but can talk for hours on? Just use that. Comic book art, a particular species of flower you keep in a pot, 14th century mongolian music, idk.



  • The list of discounts is pretty long, just search by rating and click on what’s interesting. It’s really a wide range of genres and depends on your taste.

    There is just one exception, they’re selling revolt for 5$/€ but that’s abandon ware you can just download.

    Deus Ex, x com, stronghold crusader, fallout new vegas, skyrim, gothic, flatout, sim city…

    If you are curious ish about older games, lots of familiar names will show up.