Thanks for your answer. I feel like she comes up infrequently enough to the point where I do sometimes have to clarify who I’m talking about.

I’ll keep that in mind when I’m being historicized. This just seems so far out of the daily experience of normal people that I don’t really find it relevant.

I guess I’m asking because of this specific case. This is a person that I only knew before they transitioned.

Well, I’m sorry if I misrepresented the situation. It just really sucked to watch play out. I’m glad to hear you learned something from it and I hope you’re getting by okay.

Hey, your vibes are more valuable than mine on the subject! I’ll use her current name and correct those who object :)

Thanks for your input!

Thanks again!

I don’t know what the answer is. The disturbing part to me is that the one who bought drugs with their “car money” still needs help. I mean that earnestly.

Drug addiction is an absolute nightmare but it can’t even be compared to sober homelessness.

Okay, I really hadn’t considered that perspective. Thanks for being patient with me 😂

I’ll just, for example, call her Sarah. If there is confusion, I’ll reference past memories?

Thanks for your answer! Sometimes it’s awkward with my parents who don’t know all my friend’s names anyway, but maybe, for example, just calling her Sarah and saying “she used to go by Sam” if there’s confusion? Just trying to understand :)

It’s also better to say transgender than transgendered.

I’ll fix my title, thank you!

Well, if I recall correctly, it was a person in need but they did not buy a car with the money. They bought drugs instead. Later on they asked for more money for a different car.

But I do agree with you, at the end of the day we are all just trying to get by. I shouldn’t be pointing fingers.

I’m not trying to call you out, I just really related to Adkml’s comment. I stopped begging for cash when I saw that the posters above and below me were victims of genocide.

I’m absolutely against means testing of any kind, but I think that it is up to the poster to determine if some amount of a limited pool of resources should be allocated toward them, and failing that, it is up to the donator to determine if their donations are going to someone in dire need.

We’re all just trying our best to keep each other alive.

I think it’s neither here nor there. I’m not trying to start a witch hunt, or worse yet - a struggle session

America is a fuck. Drug addiction is a fuck. Needing to beg online to survive is a fuck.

Saying you need money for basic survival items, getting the money and then turning around and spending it on drugs is shitty, especially when it’s surrounded by posts of other people also saying rhe need survival necessities.

You know what, I will chime in here too. I was facing homelessness and begged for cash on mutualaid and I watched as someone asked for money for a vehicle and received $4,000. Then they bought drugs with it.

$4,000 is 8 months rent for me. I went homeless.

I won’t otherwise make value judgements on anyone involved, but I don’t think you’re shitty for calling it out.

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