I personally don’t see any reason to spend time defining labels. The people causing harm don’t even care about the definitions of the labels they use. It’s their actions which are causing harm and and our time is better spent addressing their actions.

If we aren’t spending our time addressing their actions then we are being distracted from the harm they are causing. That benefits and enables their harmful actions while doing nothing positive for us who want a liveable future.

I like calling people by their actions instead of any label. In this situation I would call them Wealth Hoarders. I think that covers the many labels of the rich on varying scales of wealth ownership without singling out any specific group.

I find the over use of labels to be a tool for distraction. It’s easy to argue the definition of a label and ignore the actions that are actually happening. Describing a person’s action leaves less room for debate and returns the focus back on shitty, unacceptable and unwanted behaviour.

As a nice bonus, describing shitty peoples actions and behaviours to them makes them visibly uncomfortable. At least from my experiences.

I’m not a fan of labels because I can never keep up with the constant changing of meaning or the new labels that keep appearing.

Instead I focus on peoples actions to figure out how I am to handle them. The most common behaviour I see in people who act more in their own self interest is manipulation. They want to control as much as possible. That includes the situation and the people around them.

The simplest thing to do is observe. Watch what they do. Watch how they interact with people around them. I often ask myself a bunch of questions about that behaviour. Do the words they say match what they do? Where is the attention coming from and where is it going? What tools do they use to bring attention to themselves? Is there a power imbalance between them and someone else? What tools do they use to control that power imbalance? Who is gaining something and who is losing something in those interactions? Why do they care so much about something that seems insignificant?

That’s not a complete list or anything. People are creative in good and bad ways so it’s more of a developed skill which takes time to grow. You may find other observations or questions to help you filter out manipulative people.

As a quiet person who has spent more time observing than talking, I’ve always been a target for manipulators. They seem to think my quietness is submission. I’ve dealt with far too many manipulators so much of what I said comes from those experiences.

I often deal with manipulative people by either acting dumb or figuring out the tools they are using or willing to use on me and deny them the chance to use those tools on me any further.

I find it’s often better to help yourself before you help others. You shouldn’t ignore others but instead spend more of your energy and focus on yourself first.

I’ve seen and experienced people who focused all their energy on helping others while ignoring their own issues. Their help was often too much in an overwhelming way and would cause others to react in a way where they would be worse off than before. Now two people feel worse. The helper for not being able to help and the helpee who has been overwhelmed.

A person only has so much energy. It may feel selfish to help yourself first. Others may try to guilt you for putting yourself first but they aren’t you and they don’t know your needs and limits.

You do you first. Then when you are ready to help others, you can actually help them because you have a clearer head to focus on them.

From my limited experiences, I found that explaining peoples actions in simple and easy to understand words is far more damaging to people who are generally awful or manipulative.

Using insults or the latest trending buzz words against these people are not effective because those are the tools they themselves constantly use.

Once you start explaining their actions to them in words that everyone can understand, they become extremely uncomfortable as they try to change topics or defend their actions. But never let them change the topic. Keep reminding them of their actions in words that everyone understands.

Keep it short. Keep it simple. Keep it about their actions and not their words. Make sure as many people can understand why their actions are awful. This means yourself, the awful people and everyone around us.

It’s entertainment on it’s own watching awful people getting awkward by reality being swung back into their face.

I saw three garter snakes on my last hike a few days ago. They look so soft but they are content watching me watching them. They are so cute.

It was enough to see that he had nothing worthwhile to listen to because it was all attacks with no support for his position on anything. The same story for American politicians. The same story for workplace politics. The same for everyday conversations. At least from my experiences.

It’s hard to take these people seriously because there’s only attacks. They hold no conversations, only debates fueled by attacks.

Even today as I hear others talk about him or glimpes headlines and skim articles, it’s been the same words coming his mouth. The only difference from a few years ago and now is that there is more American influence in his campaign slogans and buzz words.

Even the brief moments I watched from the debate has been nothing but the same words and attacks as the years before.

He’s a manipulator, he does not deserve the attention he demands. It’s personally hard for me to watch history repeat itself, over and over again. My safety will greatly affected by people like him in power.

That video was a warning sign of a manipulator. And his actions to this date have been consistent of a manipulator. So yes, that video did greatly influence my view on him.

The first time I saw and heard about this guy, it was from a YouTube video of him cosplaying a lunch date with Justin Trudeau. This was somewhere in 2020 or 2021 after the initial covid lockdowns.

This was a adult. Recording himself on a lunch date with person who wasn’t even there. I can draw some pretty crude assumptions from that action alone. But I won’t. He’s not worth the time or attention.

People like him are all words with no action. They are losers. Losers do not deserve the attention they demand from everyone else. Take away their speaker and microphone and let them die in obscurity.

Baby bush turkeys are so fuzzy and cute. I miss living among the bush turkeys and bearded dragons when I was in Byron Bay.

I once saw someone in the irc channel jokingly refer to Alpine as Alpine linux pine. Now when I goto the website, all my mind reads is Alpine Linux Pine Linux…

My aunt died just over a week ago and processing all the family weirdness has been a trip.

Getting super uncomfortable with the religious views on… Well everything. Even when it came to doing good deeds, it somehow ended up sounding like righteous bragging. All centered around themselves and not about the person who recently died. This big display of how good and helpful they are seems to really take away from the genuinely good deeds they are doing.

Or maybe I’m doing something wrong. Some of the more memorable good deeds I’ve done usually come with a bit heartbreak. Realizing how fortunate I am does not make me want to brag. Those memories stick for a long time too.

I’m thinking of going to a lot less family functions in the future.

Also, I’m finally at the point with my website where I can go promote it locally, the library said they’d be happy to put my poster up on the community board.

I got a bit delayed because I found out the hard way my backups weren’t complete. Fortunely I found this out on my computer and not my server. I also had an external backup so nothing important was lost, except some time. Also reworked all my backup scripts and thoroughly tested them. I feel a lot more confident about them now.

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I tend to view the types of people who strongly identify and present themselves as straight to be people that are living in a state of near absolute hypocrisy. Their actions are often the opposite of what they say. This really spreads out and changes the people and culture around them.

When looking at modern masculinity, how often do these contradictions appear? So many men feel they must present themselves as strong and emotionless yet are quick to express explosive anger. It’s as if anger does not exist as an emotion to them. But anger is an emotion.

Then while feeling hurt and angry, they will point to anyone else who feels their own hurt and anger and accuse those other people of being something less than a man. All while feeling the same types of emotions.

Dominance and submission is also an interesting part of the masculinity confusion. Men are often told or shown examples of men who are strong and independent. So they want to be strong and independent. And they say they are strong and independent.

Then they are told to be loyal and that they must respect their elders, especially the men. Now that strength and independence must submit to their elders. Everything they are told to be gets cancelled out by how they think they must act. They can scream in your face that they are men, they are strong and they are independent, yet cower at presence of a man who they see as someone with authority and power.

This view that I have of people who strongly see themselves as straight gets very weird and very uncomfortable when you start applying it to sex, sexuality and kinks. Think “virile, black stallion” or cuckoldry for example.

I’ve reached a point where I personally no longer view those who identify themselves as gay to be gay. They are simply people doing people things. Because they are simply people, nothing more, nothing less. Those who use the word gay as an attack are often everything they are afraid to being. Which is sad because there’s nothing wrong with loving another person.

Living in such a constant state of hypocrisy is confusing. For everyone. To be a man, you are very much at a war with everyone including yourself. To be on the outside of masculinity, you are forced into a war with people who are at war with everyone including themselves. It’s exhausting because this war is fueled by everyone else’s time, energy and patience.

I spent 10 months trying to get fired from my last job in the trades. After dealing with lawyers and finishing with that part of my life, I cancelled my apprenticeship.

I’ve spent most of my life in manual labour or trade jobs and I can’t stomach going back into these fields. The men I have to deal with in those fields are awful and they act so gross.

I could go forever about their shit behaviour. The lockdowns from 2020 amplified that shitty behaviour. It was unbearable. The shit they would say about women and the shit they would say to women were gross and fucked up.

These guys basically used their shitty attitude towards women as a way to gain attention from other men. It’s weird and really, really gay in a gross, repressed and unattractive way.

Over the past few years I’ve come across some survival ebooks. The first bundle was from some random google drive link on reddit and the second bundle I got came from a humble bundle.

You can download them here: https://drive.proton.me/urls/QWA614FTX0#TXeqSBVzjzk5

Not as convenient as a physical book but it’s something :)

Canada here, they usually stop by Toronto when they North American tours, so I make my way there :)

I got to see them twice since 2020. Worth it both times. Even made a good friend because of one of their concerts :)

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I got fixed a couple months ago. Best decision ever.

For nearly 40 years, I’ve been told the horrors of climate change. For nearly 40 years, I’ve watched climate change unravel. And now at nearly 40 years on this planet, I’ve reached a point where I am more concerned about immediate human activity affecting my life rather than the breakdown and collapse of our planet’s environment.

At no point in my life has there ever been a desire to bring a new life into this horrifying existence.

Now if only those weird and miserable old men would stop calling me selfish for not having children. Their obsession with my genitals makes me uncomfortable.

I hate stuff. I hate receiving because too much stuff gives me anxiety. That anxiety over stuff makes giving just as difficult.

I prefer spending my time with people. Either by being there for them or helping them. While I generally don’t like receiving help unless I specifically ask, I’ll allow those with good intentions to help. I can put aside any feelings of annoyances because I know they will feel good being able to help do something for someone else.

My closest relationships have been built on simply being available for each other. Gifts have never had the same outcome from my experiences.