🐝bownage [they/he]

✨ 👋 Dutch queer person (they/he) | I like taking to people online

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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • Had a nice chill easter weekend. Things are okay, but I feel anxious.

    Last week one of my best friends told me he thought I didn’t really want to see him anymore because I don’t seem to enjoy his company as much recently. I was absolutely shook but luckily I quickly realised the issue which is that I’ve been getting complacent in our friendship.

    Tbh I have to do most of the work in a lot of my friendships and I’ve been really tired and this is my one friend that actually does a lot of the emotional work himself. Which led me to take that space for granted or at least not show my appreciation. It was definitely a wake up call.

    Anyway now I’m planning a bunch of stuff to do together with my bestie so we’ll be grand again in the future :)












  • Made too many plans, now I’m tired but luckily the weekend is nearly there so I can rest do even more

    I spontaneously booked a hairdresser appointment last weekend and really enjoyed getting my hair cut. The differences are quite small but it made me feel euphoric :)

    No one at work has noticed ofc but fuck them I’m vibin 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️


  • Thanks for saying this, it does help ❤️

    I just find it hard to actually take action and not just feel cynical/disillusioned/unable to enact change, which is what I’m doing most of the time.

    Of course it helps to start small but I don’t really seem to get any relief from what I do control. Sure it’s nice knowing my friends would eat the billionaires with me but that won’t actually change anything in the world cause we’re all privileged enough to not feel threatened enough (privilege, baby) by the current state of the world to actually get off our asses.

    Which in turn makes me feel like I’m just a blob floating on the waves of a storm of someone else’s design and it’s not worth the effort to invest in myself and try to make myself grow as a person.