The problem is that Kbin sucks as well. For example, /m/science lacks actual moderators and gets flooded with spam on the regular. And even where there are active moderators, moderation actions often do not get federated.

I was hoping these issues would get fixed soon, but here we are, three months after the Reddit apocalypse, and Kbin is still not a fully functional platform. For example, I filed bug #1102 fifteen days ago, and this has still not been resolved. And bug #570 has been open since early July.

If Kbin wants to become and stay relevant, it needs more hands on deck.

You can completely customize Gentoo Linux to be what you want it to be and slim it down to what you need.

PSA: Defense of blackpill ideology is extremely unwelcome here.

It is not “acknowledging harsh reality”, “the unfiltered truth”, or “how the world works.” No. It’s doomer thinking, and an oversimplification and distortion of reality. Yes, physical attractiveness is important, but it’s not the be-all and end-all. There are other factors that play a role. Humans are complex beings, and you’re doing us no service by erasing that complexity and boiling everything down to one factor. One that is mostly out of one’s control. As if it’s that simple.

It leads to hopelessness, depression, and worse. We here aim to help men overcome that, and work on a better future. If you’re at cross-purposes with that, then you have no place here.

Voornamelijk de jongeren die opgroeien in refodorpen in Zeeland, de Veluwe, enzo. En refogezinnen hebben nog steeds meer kinderen dan gemiddeld.

It was categorically denied (by the top level commenter, and repeated by you) that women had those rights. That is the disinformation that feminism keeps spreading with its propaganda.

Please get up to speed by actually watching the video. Otherwise discussion is useless.

You apparently didn’t watch the video. Please do so before you spread more disinformation.

Women already did own property, and were able to receive an education, and most definitely were not an untapped resource for labor. As was explained in the video, with evidence given.

Yes, they may not have had the right to vote or to hold public office, but neither did most men. It was the struggle for universal suffrage which gave both men and women the vote.

No. Misandry is real. Patriarchy isn’t.

Stop trying to gaslight us. Now let’s get back to the topic at hand.

I agree with your solution: be good at something. That is key to valuing yourself.

But I disagree with “the default role is gone”. What I see is that men are still expected to be the main breadwinners and providers. It’s just that that role is no longer as respected as it once was. It’s a silent “minimum” that’s expected of men, and we’d better not complain about it.

People may say that men no longer need to be breadwinners and providers, but in practice men who aren’t are looked down upon and have trouble finding a partner.

And the display: none? That’s what I want, but weirdly it’s not working on my magazine.

Update: It doesn’t appear to work when I put in the CSS in the magazine stylesheet. This is an ongoing issue that still has not been solved, despite promises: https://codeberg.org/Kbin/kbin-core/issues/118.

Have you tested that? Because it doesn’t work on my end.

I’ve asked for help since it doesn’t appear to be simple.

I do have rules in my uBlock configuration that remove the random sections on the user side, but that of course does not help for new users who visit this place.

In case you do have uBlock, here are the rules you can paste in “My Filters”:

kbin.social##.section.posts
kbin.social##.section.entries
kbin.social##.active-users.section
kbin.social##.related-magazines.section.magazines
kbin.social##.kbin-promo.section–no-bg.section

Yes, this is a problem, especially since some of the federated content from other servers is not labeled as NSFW, when it obviously should be. This is an unintended side-effect of me having chosen the “men” namespace. Let me see if I can fix it in the magazine stylesheet.

I disagree, tho there is some nuance.

Incels are literally involuntary celibates, which is mostly a situation outside of their control. And it doesn’t say anything about their views on women. That said, many of their forums do contain a lot of misogyny.

MRAs are mostly egalitarians, so it’s not right to paint them collectively as misogynists.

TRP has certain ideas that are definitely misogynistic (such as AWALT), so it applies to this group.

Black pill is even worse and paints people as being determined by their genetics. This group is misogynistic by definition.

MGTOW in itself is not misogynistic, but it is very present in their online forums.

But indeed, this post would have been better if it focused on misogyny only, which is something we strongly oppose. Instead, the discussion derailed into a discussion on feminism.

Where is your proof if you argue for it to be a scientific fact?

For example, feminist Mary P. Koss is instrumental in the sexual assault statistics published by the CDC. She redefines rape as something that cannot be done by women to men, thus burying the evidence that rape is not a gendered crime. See https://time.com/3393442/cdc-rape-numbers/

That is a systemic silencing of male issues.

As it stands, right now feminism is applied in a way that either ignores or silences men. and thus, it is anti-male.

That’s not a fact, but an interpretation.

Objection! Many men have the lived experience of our issues not being taken seriously, but rather them being dismissed. Men are often silenced, because “what about the women? Don’t they have it worse?” And the dismissive “patriarchy hurts men too.”

This is an over-generalisation of feminism.

Says you. But you didn’t give any of the evidence asked for.

Feminists regularly state that men as individuals are not well served by a patriarchal system. […] A lot of this is just the misunderstanding of “men” as a social group, and “men” as individuals. Critique of the social systems affecting a group cannot be simply applied to every individual within that group.

So men in general are bad, but some individuals are okay? Yeah, that’s misandry. And that’s why we cannot work with most feminist activists. They are bigots.

I’ve tried. I’ve honestly tried. When I was active on Reddit I tried to ally with a feminist or feminist-adjacent group that would not demonize men. I found a few individuals, but no community (/subreddit) that would actually embrace men as equals and oppose misandry.

And that’s a reflection of what happens in politics. Feminist politicians, lobbyists, and activist groups often say they want equality, but their actions often show the opposite.

In the welcome thread you favourited comments that consider feminism to have a “focus on female supremacy”

It often does.

and to be “genocidal”.

I don’t agree with that. Just because I upvote a comment does not mean I agree with every phrase in it.

That same comment thread deliberately misinterprets feminist distinction between “group” and “individual”

How so? Doesn’t feminism habitually demonize men as a group? And isn’t demonizing people based on innate characteristics bigotry?

To be very frank, you are not pro women’s advocacy if that is the sort of generalisation that you encourage.

Nonsense. Don’t you understand the difference between a gender and an ideology? We are pro women, but oppose feminist ideology because of its misandry.

(Yes, there are schools of feminism that are not, but they are fringe.)

meaningful men’s advocacy is only going to gain actual traction by working with feminists towards egalitarianism.

That sounds a bit like meaningful black advocacy is only going to gain actual traction by working with white supremacists towards egalitarianism.

There is no working with bigots.

(And yes, I’m aware there are many “passive” feminists who believe the propaganda that the movement is for equality. We welcome them to open their eyes and work with us.)

But if there are feminists who are pro men and pro equality, we would love to work with them. The problem is that in practice they are very hard to find.

honestly it doesn’t leave me hopeful for this space

Then you need to adjust your perspective. Feminism is an ideology that has from the start been steeped in misandry. That is what we oppose. Sure, there are individual feminists who may promote actual equality. But show us the actual feminist thought leaders, academics, lobbyists and politicians who do. The majority in practice support sexist ideas and policies.

Comments saying that feminism is an egalitarian movement are reduced.

Because unfortunately, in practice feminism too often is not egalitarian, but paints men collectively as oppressors. We oppose that unhealthy, sexist view of men.

the sort of tribalistic thinking that so often leads men’s advocacy spaces into misogyny, where women’s advocacy is treated as an infringement on men.

We are pro women’s advocacy. We simply oppose misandry as well as misogyny.

Did you read the pinned welcome thread?

It is because we are egalitarian and pro-human that we are pro-men as well as pro-women. And because men are human and have human rights, men also deserve to have their rights advocated for. This community welcomes everyone who comes without hate or bigotry, to discuss men’s issues.

It was time for me to return to Linux, which I’ve been using on and off for two decades. This time I wanted to give Nobara a go, with its optimizations for gaming. But alas, the LiveUSB is unusable. The default options lead to a black screen (I guess when the kernel framebuffer kicks in), and the “troubleshooting” option gives me a desktop that crashes in a few minutes, when still setting up the options in the installer. I guess Wayland is too unstable.

So I returned to Gentoo and am now in the middle of installing that (again). Its LiveUSB system is stable and giving me no problem.