Nicht zu vergessen die Autofahrer, die die dann auf der Motorhaube haben. Ich bin in einem Dorf aufgewachsen, in dessen Nähe mehrere beliebte Motorradstrecken sind (kurvige, lange Landstraßen zwischen den Dörfern). An jeder Kurve musste man extrem bremsen im Sommer, um keinen Motorradfahrer auf der Haube zu haben. Der einzige Grund, warum ich nie einen Überfahren habe, ist der, dass ich auf bestimmten, besonders kurvigen Landstraßen durchgehend 50 gefahren bin und immer bereit war für die Vollbremsung. Beinahe-Unfälle hatte ich im Sommer wöchentlich. Die Kreuze am Wegrand waren auch echt und ich kannte sogar eine Familie, die Weggezogen ist, weil das Haus direkt an einer engen Kurve an der Landstraße lag und sie viel zu oft diejenigen waren, die den Krankenwagen rufen mussten.

Tom Cruise I just don’t like anything about him

Will Smith, because he’s annoyed me in every role after Prince of Bel Air

Try out things. What you like to do isn’t always just something you always dreamed about. Finding a job you’re good at will make you like it. That doesn’t have to be something connected to a school subject. I was always very organized and I found out that I like working in project management. Had you told me in school about this job I’d probably have said it sounds boring. But I tried it by chance and it’s actually very satisfying because I get to plan and organize.

You’ll never know if you don’t try. Get an entry level job, even if you don’t like it you might find out that you like certain aspects of it and get a better idea of what you like in a job.

I’m forty, so a different generation than your parents, but I still grew up and had my first dating experiences before the internet. Online dating wasn’t really a thing here until I was in my early twenties.

At least where I grew up the guys who randomly approached girls to ask them out were seen as creepy even back in the 90s. I and everyone I knew met partners through activities like sports clubs, parties, bars etc. (I’m not from the US, so people from my school started going to bars pretty early). While there wasn’t a big discourse around men approaching women in public (or none that reached my little town), we did have some guys in town who’d just walk up to girls on the street and ask them out and the consensus was that they were weird and should be avoided.

I met all my partners so far through activities. My first boyfriend was a regular at the same student café and we ended up sitting next to each other during quiz night. I met guys I had dates with in uni - sitting next to each other during lectures and talking about the Prof, going to the same presentation or cooking night etc. None of them “approached me” in the sense of coming up to me and asking “can I have your number” with zero context. We chatted, had an interesting conversation. At the end we exchanged contact information to meet for a coffee, usually without any expectation of it being a date. When coffee went well, someone would ask the other out on a proper date. No approaching, no deciding within a few seconds wether you want to date someone. Just casually getting to know each other before asking for more.

I also met my husband that way. We went to the same event, talked, had a lot in common. We met the next day to continue a discussion about a certain topic we were both interested in. That’s when things started getting flirty and by the end we made plans to meet for a real date. I don’t even remember who asked whom, we were both heavily flirting with each by the time we talked about seeing each other again so it was very obvious the next meeting would be a date. He didn’t ask me out out of nowhere or hit on me, we were just getting to know new people and eventually we started flirted somewhere along the line.

It doesn’t have to be makeup, but caring for how you look can help you feel fly, too. A haircut that fits. Face treatments or creams with nice scents feel good. Finding the right products for you can make you feel good. I helped my husband find the right soap and shampoo for his skin and hair type, got him to use moisturizer and better shaving products. His acne that he had for years vanished completely, his skin is nice and smooth now and he feels so much better because all the dry skin was uncomfortable. He also goes to a barber shop now that massages his head and gives him a haircut and beard trimming and he loves having a little spa time.

It won’t magic magically cure your depression or reduce your weight, but it will help you feel better in your body.

I’m a bi woman and have always preferred women. But I ended up falling in love with a wonderful man who is now my husband. I’m currently really grateful for that. Loving a woman in this climate would be so stressful. I’m very scared for my trans best friend though.

There’s a mobile phone repair shop next to where we live. Everything in the window is faded from the sun. In 6 years of living here I have not seen it open or someone inside even once.

Funktioniert Super, danke für die Tipps :)

Can’t be good for the quality. I already get a lot of errors in my native language: the correct translation to my native language is not accepted and the “correct translation according to Duolingo” is grammatically wrong. So I keep getting errors for not using wrong grammar in my own mother language. This is going to keep getting so much worse and I have to wonder, if I’m even learning the correct grammar in the foreign language.

I was a project manager for a pretty large project last year at my job. I really tried my best to shield the developers from all the bullshit. We had a very difficult customer who changed their mind almost twice a week about things, demanded meetings about the progress 2-3 times a week, didn’t understand that the requested changes won’t be in the testsystem within a day of mentioning them (not even sending us a proper change request in writing, just mentioning them in a meeting) and so on. Not to mention talking with the higher-ups who got nervous when the customer kept complaining and explaining to them that we/the devs are working as fast as possible and that the customer is being unreasonable.

The worst part about that role was not the utterly irrational customer but our own colleagues in development. They unloaded all their frustration about the project on me. I tried to handle it, in a way it’s part of the job. I got shit on by the customer for not meeting their unreasonable demands and ridiculous timelines, got shit on by upper management because this project with this very important customer is having trouble, had to defend myself AND the rest of the team by showing that the customer doesn’t know what they want. Just to then turn around and get screamed at by a dev because he’s sick of having to go to our 1/2-hour-a-week meeting and also how come there’s been four change requests already. He told me I wasn’t doing my job, because all he wants is to implement the requirements as planned half a year ago but I kept sending change requests instead of doing my job as a project manager and shielding him from this shit. Wouldn’t believe me that if the customer had his way, he’d be getting four change requests per week.

Yeah, I’m pissed and also currently looking for a new job. And no way am I ever doing this shit job again, where you’re just everybody’s doormat and get yelled at by customers, bosses and your own team alike.

Denke für die Tipps, der Canon Selphy kommt morgen bei mir an, dann kann ich berichten

etwa wenn Menschen, die sich um einen Job beworben haben, nicht beim Vorstellungsgespräch auftauchen.

Und umgekehrt ist das einfach normale Praxis…

Was mich so am Begriff stört ist die inflationäre Verwendung. Mein erster Freund hat mich geghostet: Nach 6 Monaten Beziehung ist er eines Abends nicht zum Date erschienen und ich war auf allen Kanälen blockiert. Als ich zu ihm ging, hat seine Mutter gesagt er kann grad nicht. Sein bester Freund hat ein paar vage Andeutungen gemacht, dass ich dumm sei zu glauben, ich wäre jemals mit ihm zusammen gewesen (obwohl sein ganzer Freundeskreis mich ein halbes Jahr lang als seine feste Freundin kannte). Den Grund hab ich letztlich nie erfahren.

Heutzutage schreibt man ein paar Sätze auf Tinder und wenn die Person nicht mehr antwortet ist es direkt ghosten. Wenn ich mich nett mit jemandem in einer Bar unterhalte, komme vom Klo zurück und er ist schon gegangen ist das doch auch nicht ghosten. Vielleicht nicht nett, aber auch kein Drama.

Wieso sollte das auf dem Land nicht funktionieren? Ich bin in einem 900 Einwohner Dorf groß geworden. Die meisten Geschäfte waren um den Dorfplatz herum, der ein gutes Stück entfernt war von der nächsten Straße. Auf dem Land gehen die Leute nämlich die 5 Minuten zu Fuß zur Dorfmitte.

Falls du größere Supermärkte für den Wocheneinkauf meinst, die waren in unserer Gegend immer am Rand vom Dorf mit großem eigenen Parkplatz. In den Kleinstädten war es ähnlich, zumindest denen in unserer Gegend: Aldi und REWE an der Stadtgrenze mit großem Parkplatz, der Stadtkern eine große Fußgängerzone mit kleinen Läden.

Not even censoring, also outright stealing for karma farming. I’ve had perfectly normal photos being criticized as not within the rules for bullshit reasons. An alcoholic drink aggressively marketed in two “variations” for men in women in pointlessly gendered was taken down with the bullshit excuse, that men and women have different metabolisms so it wasn’t pointless. A week later there was a post about this drink with a lot of upvotes and my exact photo from our local supermarket. It was posted by one of the very active accounts. Mods are taking down promising content in some subs just to post it themselves.

Danke, da ist Canon ja auch ganz weit oben :)

Würdest du den denn empfehlen? Mein Schwiegervater hat den Canon Pixma, da finde ich die Bilder etwas unscharf. Oder liegt sowas an der Papierqualität?

The straight-A student who could have gotten into any course at any university with her grades ended up getting a degree in art history and works at a museum now. She was never much into art in school, mostly focussed on chemistry actually and thought about studying medicine or biochemistry when we graduated.

Another straight-A student never left our 900-inhabitants village. Everybody thought he’d surely make it big, study medicine or engineering or something like that and work for a big company. He’s working at the small local bank.

On the other hand, one of the girls who was always very anti-school and didn’t care much for grades (I don’t actually know how good her grades were, but definitely not among the top students) is a lawyer at a large law firm now.

Ich glaub das ist eher was für später, das könnte jetzt noch zu frustrierend sein, so viele Wörter auf einmal zu jonglieren. Aber ich behalte es mal für nächstes Jahr im Hinterkopf, wenn sie hoffentlich B ist.

Das haben wir sogar. Das ist auch eine gute Idee.

Yeah, that’s the other thing. I was a teenager in the 90s and just walking up to someone in public to hit on them or flirting with people who are working was seen as weird back then too. You met people through hobbies, school, parties or clubs.