A wedding can cost almost nothing. I found a very small local poor church and offered them $100 bucks to use the place on a Saturday. I baked a big cake, decorated it plain white. I overnight smoked a brisket, made a pan of Mac and cheese.

Got a friend to officiate, and told our friends and families a month in advance. We told everyone it was a potluck. We got $100 plain rings. My grandmother ended up buying some cool flowers for decorations. A friend played some music on the church speakers.

All in, it probably cost us $400 out of pocket, and we got enough cash from attendees to cover that and pay for us to take off work for the week to just hang out and move in together, staycation style. To be fair, I don’t think either of us would have wanted a vacation style honeymoon, we did that kind of thing later. That first week was a lot of figuring out how to live together, so that took time.

So it’s possible to have a big party with friends and family, but spend very little. Just have everyone bring some food and it’ll work out.

Studies show that folks are less likely to have a happy long term marriage the more they spend on a wedding. It’s a pretty clear correlation that expensive weddings typically make folks more unhappy and starts the relationship off with more financial stress. So, don’t feel bad about being frugal! As long as you are both happy, it can be very inexpensive.

You have to keep posting these, they crack me up

I’m not Catholic, but I just read a lot these links with quotes from the late Pope and feel like he was a very empathetic and humble teacher! A person who tried very hard not to speak for God, but rather leave a lot of room for the very real risk that a lot of previous teachings were perhaps biased and not biblical. Or even if the teachings were accurate, that being militant, turning away, and condemning outsiders was an unhealthy stance. Tolerance, empathy, humility, love for all mankind. These things perhaps are not as militant as some would like, but sound very Christlike. For example, the Pope receiving a trans couple and welcoming them sounds a lot like Christ spending time with prostitutes and welcoming them.

It always makes me sad when a leader tries to be loving and open to outsiders, but their followers want them to be angry and judgemental to outsiders.

I’m sorry for those who were raised with judgemental church teachings who found this Pope to be too loving and open to all. That they crave a leader who will condemn non-believers, who will preach fire and brimstone. That path of “othering” non-believers (or slightly different believers) has led down the paths of unholy violence and hate countless times. Why would someone read the Bible and history and still want that level of judgement and anger from a leader? To have people to look down on and feel superior to? For the feeling of righteous indignation and anger? What could be more unchristian than that? Than the most vile sin of pride?

I’m pretty sure it’s Shaun of the Dead.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shaun_of_the_Dead

ah, excellent!

in firefighting, there’s also the Taxpayer https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taxpayer_(building)

Let’s be real, Witcher 3 is just a Gwent launcher.

Also I’ve definitely played more Pazaak than KOTOR.

I mute a ton of communities, and I really like quickly getting to the “end” of All. Then I’ve blocked some other dopamine sites, so I get bored and go play outside 🤣

indeed, and thanks for inspiring me to bake bread tomorrow

didn’t feel like cooking

Ah, me too

made bread

wat

Americans will do anything to avoid installing a $60 bidet. /s

Ohh I grew up drinking soursop juice! I should make it into a kumbucha. That would be so nostalgic

It’s definitely possible, there’s a tool called QMK that will flash a microcontroller to send keyboard inputs to USB. I’ve made a few of these myself, they are just sometimes a little fiddly to get working.

This has a build guide for a specific keyboard, but you could pretty easily learn that and customize it to your liking.

https://github.com/abstracthat/dactyl-manuform

From what I’ve seen, engineering is just a lot of physics classes. If you’re struggling, definitely you’ll need to develop more serious study habits, but it’s worth it. There’s so few good stable jobs left, and engineering is one of them. Maybe find a tutor, good YouTube lectures, maybe Khan academy. Whatever it takes. Maybe you need to do each type of problem a dozen times to get it, not just once. That’s a bummer, but it’s worth the effort. School is much much harder than real world. Everyone I know who is an engineer agrees that the schooling was the hardest part.

I absolutely adore both of those journals! They are so goooood. Wow. Life goals to be serene enough to fill a cool looking journal like that without getting distracted by squirrels

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I’m sure someone will be like “um akchuly” to my explanation. But for me it’s good enough to think if it that way.

I’ve worked in Haskell and F# for a decade, and added some of the original code to the Unison compiler, so I’m at least passingly familiar with the subject. Enough that I’ve had to explain it to new hires a bunch of times to get them to to speed. I find it easier to learn something when I’m given a practical use for it and how it solves that problem.

In practical terms, it’s most commonly a code pattern where any function that interacts with something outside your code (database, filesystem, external API) is “given permission” so all the external interactions are accounted for. You have to pass around something like a permission to allow a function to interact with anything external. Kind of like dependency injection on steroids.

This allows the compiler to enhance the code in ways it otherwise couldn’t. It also prevents many kinds of bugs. However, it’s quite a bit of extra hassle, so it’s frustrating if you’re not used to it. The way you pass around the “permission” is unusual, so it gives a lot of people a headache at first.

This is also used for internal permissions like grabbing the first element of an array. You only get permission if the array has at least one thing inside. If it’s empty, you can’t get permission. As such there’s a lot of code around checking for permission. Languages like Haskell or Unison have a lot of tricks that make it much easier than you’d think, but you still have to account for it. That’s where you see all the weird functions in Haskell like fmap and >>=. It’s helpers to make it easier to pass around those “permissions”.

What’s the point you ask? There’s all kinds of powerful performance optimizations when you know a certain block of code never touches the outside world. You can split execution between different CPU cores, etc. This is still in it’s infancy, but new languages like Unison are breaking incredible ground here. As this is developed further it will be much easier to build software that uses up multiple cores or even multiple machines in distributed swarms without having to build microservice hell. It’ll all just be one program, but it runs across as many machines as needed. Monads are just one of the first features that needed to exist to allow these later features.

There’s a whole math background to it, but I’m much more a “get things done” engineer than a “show me the original math that inspired this language feature” engineer, so I think if it more practically. Same way I explain functions as a way to group a bunch of related actions, and not as an implementation of a lambda calculus. I think people who start talking about burritos and endofunctors are just hazing.

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Indeed, I don’t need to stand out by having more unique tastes, I like what I like

MOST BASIC LIST EVER

• Trigun
• Spirited Away
• Dandandan
• Solo Leveling
• Cowboy Bebop
• Nausica and the Valley of the Wind
• JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure
• Trigun Stampede
• Bloom into You
• Gurran Lagan