While I understand your perspective. I want to point out that “lemmy” is not one place. The emphasis is on people being permitted to say what they wish and the conversations being interconnected.
I think you are encountering a social issue, people suck. Fortunately lemmy has a lot of features to turn bad content off. The first is the choice of which server you call home. The moderators from that server will protect you from a select amount of “garbage.” From there you have user tools to block communities/users as you feel is necessary.
The onus is on the lemmy user to curate their content.
I’m not your pal, friend.