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  • I read the wiki and a few articles about it a while ago when I saw the video that brought attention to the app: https://youtu.be/od7P-RhLjLQ

    I don’t think the wiki or any articles I read seem misleading. I understand that he did not personally set any of this up, but having a separate app where people pay money to interact with you seems like shitty behavior for a celeb who is already beyond rich. I’m not saying it’s as bad as a crypto rug pull, but it’s giving similar energy. Clearly there are some people who were getting something out of the app, but it feels kind of predatory. If he wanted super fans to keep up with him he can just send out a newsletter. I get notifications when certain people I follow are touring near me and it doesn’t require a special app. I would probably feel differently if he put a lot of effort into engaging with fans there but it would still feel tainted with the fact that some people are spending money with the hope he’ll notice them.

    It’s like having a patreon with no actual perks. If Taylor swift or timothee chalamet made a patreon and you could maybe get some nebulous benefit from joining I would think that’s also shitty behavior. It’s not illegal, and I understand that in theory the app was free, but the conceit is to make money off these parasocial relationships with you and it’s just gross imho. At least with merch or patreon subs you know what you’re paying for. I highly doubt he was even the one responding to most super fans seeing as most posts were copy/pasted from other social media platforms. He probably had some doing it for him.





  • This is all obvious theater and many of these are just pics of these people. No way to tell if they’ve actually been arrested before or if it’s just random security footage, but the text differences might be that different states have different terminology. What classifies as rape or molestation or contact or anything else can differ from place to place. It might still be AI, but it’s not unusual for the same crime to have different names depending on where it was committed.


  • I don’t watch him, and everything I know is from second hand accounts, but there is real trauma associated with poverty. As someone who grew up poor (sometimes, not all the time), with family that also grew up poor, it really affects your mentality. I’m not saying it’s necessarily a distinct mental illness, and you can make the argument that everyone’s life circumstances affect their mental state, but that seems like a level of trauma that is affecting his life and health. I’d say it’s abnormal at least, if not actually diagnosable. There’s a lack of love and respect for yourself that must be occurring to live like that. No one deserves to live like that and the fact he was possibly raised like that and thinks it’s acceptable is truly devastating. I hope he gets help. This makes his statement seem like less of a “fuck these people” kind of thing and more of a “no one ever showed me love or empathy or cared for me so I have no concept of how to extend that to others.” Legitimately extremely sad.



  • I think a lot of the job is a hold over from a pre Internet era. Yes, stations do you have to regularly state what channel you’re listening to, but before the Internet DJs provided pretty useful information regarding what was playing. You couldn’t just look up on the fly the lyrics of a song to find out the name or the band, or if they were playing in your area.

    DJs used to give listeners that information, and potentially provide additional context or similar bands that would be of interest. It was hard to get that information at the time. I know some relatively young people who still listen to DJ morning shows, but they listen for the skits And humor, not for the music insights. At this point, I don’t think there’s really much need for them, but I imagine nobody wants to be the first to fully get rid of them. I imagine people are upset about this, but I don’t know that they would be any less upset if they just decided to do away with DJs altogether.



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    Yea, unfortunately I read the whole study out of good faith. It’s wild that comment has as many upvotes as it does, but just goes to show how little people actually care about the truth and how ready they are to accept anything that purports to back their own claims. Or hopefully that Lemmy is being astroturfed already and no one actually believes that, they’re just sowing division.

    Every case is just gross and a great example of how patriarchy harms men. I can’t believe people think that they can marry off their disabled son and they’d just be effectively cared for by their new wife. Heartbreaking. I can’t imagine effectively telling my child I’m sick of caring for them so I’m just giving that responsibility to someone who they don’t know and who’s being forced to care for them with no training or presumably forewarning.


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    I appreciate you owning up to the fact that this study does not say what you claimed it did. I have a hard time believing it could have been misread as such regardless of local time or eyesight, but at least we’re on the same page.

    I don’t know why you’re acting as though I said men have never in all of history stood up for women. I’m not making that case. I just don’t have a reason to believe that makes up a majority of man on man violence. How many times have I seen that vs how many times have I seen two men fight over a spilled drink or a parking space or some other frivolous thing. I don’t think the evidence is there to suggest that man on man violence is somehow secretly also the fault of women, which seemed to be that persons point.

    Not sure you realize it was me you responded to elsewhere in this thread, but since you accused me of essentially patronizing you, I won’t make any comments about your personal situation. I only note that because you brought it up, and I’d hate to have you point to me not mentioning it as some lack of empathy.


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    Legitimately empathized and said I was sorry to hear about your experience, and you seemed to interpret it as me attempting to provide validation, so not sure how you think that corresponds with an unwillingness to empathize. I’m not talking to you any differently than I would talk to anyone else. If you don’t like the way I talk in general you don’t have to engage.

    I’m not playing dumb. You just didn’t make a point and I was trying to ask if you meant to make one as kindly as I could. It seems like you’re attempting to now, so I’ll address that.

    1. I never said men shouldn’t feel bad. Please point out when you believe I said that.

    2. men should be allies. If you just said that men are becoming incels then I’m not sure why you think they are employing the allyship strategy. They’re clearly not. I also never suggested that allyship will solve the worlds problems or that women SHOULD treat men X way. I said that if men want to know how to make it less likely women are concerned for their safety when they show up, they should engage in allyship. That’s true, but not enough men are engaging in allyship. If more men did it there’d be a larger societal shift. More women interacting with more men who are allies and seeing them through that lens.

    My message has never been about blaming anyone. I’ve never addressed how women should feel. Some women feel and act a specific way. That’s the framework the discussion is taking place in. If men want suggestions as to how to make women feel safer, I have some. They do not have to listen to them. They can ignore me and the other women telling them what would help women feel safe. Not sure if you know how allyship works, but a big part of it is constructive dialogue, and right now there are women saying what would help and you seem to be more interested in arguing with them than anything else. Likely allies are not alienated by this behavior and have empathy and understanding for the position women find themselves in. They… actually extend allyship.

    If me suggesting allyship towards women is eliciting this kind of response I have a legitimate concern about your actual interest in being an ally. Seems like a weird thing to be against. Writing up a whole comment to argue against… being nice to people?


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    That’s not what that article is about, but I imagine you knew that already. 31% of the participants were experiencing it due to homophobia, 37% were because they didn’t want to marry who their parents wanted, 10% were due to wanting to get rid of them due to disability. Literally none of that is at it relates to an inciting incident of female honor being insulted. The article also makes a point of mentioning how this is a patriarchal problem and how women still make up an overwhelmingly large percentage of victims. None of this proves any point about how standing up for women is somehow a huge proportion of male on male violence.

    This is a tactic fascists use. Just throwing in a study with no real relation to the topic. It’s to waste someone’s time and energy and divert the topic.

    You clearly are not engaging in good faith and I invite anyone to read that study and confirm it does not say what you are suggesting.


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    I think it’s great that you’ve helped people in need. I’m sorry you were abused. That’s awful no matter the circumstances.

    I’m not sure why you’re bringing up men crying and being vulnerable. I support anyone expressing their emotions in healthy ways and I’ve not seen people here say otherwise. Are you just sharing your personal experience or was this related to something?

    I would hope most people can say yes to the last bit. It’s more or less the basis of civil society.



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    I’m not sure if you realize that it was me that you were replying to elsewhere in this thread, but I think you actually answered own question. In a vacuum, it shouldn’t matter, but in reality, it does. When “randomly” picking who coordinates social events, or work happy hour, is it generally a woman? When you’re talking about introducing a new idea in the office and you check with a colleague, is it always the same sex? When someone at work asks for a moment of your time, who are you finding immediate time for? I’m not saying that you have a gender bias, I am just saying that society has a gender bias, and often people don’t realize their subconscious gender bias. If you’re not paying attention, you can definitely fall into societal assumptions about gender without even realizing it. Heck, you might even find that you are white knighting, and helping women more than men. Maybe you never fall into those issues, but most feminist theory thinks it’s important to be at least conscious of this sort of thing.

    I kept it mostly work related, because interpersonal relationships are all different and I don’t really know anything about you or the kind of interpersonal relationship you would have, but it generally applies to those as well. Obviously, the work examples are also quite specific for a specific kind of job, but hopefully it gives enough of a picture that you could extrapolate how unconscious bias could affect all kinds of jobs and not just insert sitcom office job here.



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    Since you refuse to provide evidence, I will assume you have none.

    Here, enjoy this report on how one in five cases of sexual assault reported to police are not believed: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9136376/

    Are you suggesting that those situations are indeed inherently dangerous? If so, then why so uppity about their reactions? If not, then my point stands.

    You are offering no solutions to the problems, while acting as though there is no cause to the problems.

    Simple solutions can help complex problems. They’re not the only way to do so, but they are a way. You are clearly not legitimately interested in women and their struggles though, so this comment is here more for posterity than anything else. May you have the day you deserve.


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    Memes are not studies. If you can’t at least find one to support the point I’d hazard it was never true. You can’t base an argument around a single video, or even a collection of them. Data is generally needed.

    White knighting is pretty exclusively used in a derogatory manner, which would indicate that most people think it’s not the default and that it’s cringe.

    Men doing stupid things for women is not the fault of women. It also does not translate to defending women.

    If men were so ready to defend women, why was the me too movement needed? Why is there still sexism in the workplace, or at all? Do I believe that some men like to appear masculine? Yes. Do I believe that some men equate masculinity with violence? Yes. Do I think that necessarily equates to protecting women, or doing things that benefit women? Absolutely not.

    You say you didn’t read enough to follow, and that you don’t have any studies, but that there is definitely a point to be made. Even if there is, your comment does not really support that.

    This feels like how Trump got elected. Commenting about how memes proved a point and just going off of vibes, it must be right.