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  • Jobesmith92@lemmynsfw.comtoAsk Lemmy NSFW@lemmynsfw.com•What are the benefits and drawbacks of not looking for a girlfriend and just using AI as a replacement instead?English
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    10 days ago

    AI is not real. It’s artificial. It’s right in the name. You will get no intimacy, affection, companionship or even deep meaningful conversation. You may think YOU feel a connection but it is NOT reciprocated in any way.

    First, find a human therapist. Have regular sessions IN PERSON. Believe it or not, it helps. I know from experience.

    Second, maintain your relationships with your family and friends. They are your support network even if they don’t know it. You can talk to them about these things but you don’t have to. That’s what the therapist is for. Just having a solid relationship with people who care about you will help your mental health.

    Third, and only after the first two are in place, sign up for a real dating site like Match.com or eHarmony. NOT TINDER! Here at least you know they are also seeking a relationship. It will still take time. Go on all the dates EVEN IF you don’t think you would be a match. You could be surprised when you meet them in person. (I met my wife this way.)

    Fourth, clubs and bars are useless. Random encounters at coffee shops, libraries, volunteer organizations, dog parks (if you have a dog), etc. are more likely to be genuine people.

    Fifth, don’t get discouraged. It takes time and won’t happen overnight. But it will happen. No matter where you live there are plenty of compatible people. It just takes random chance to find each other.