If instances aren’t willing to moderate themselves when it comes to transphobia they should get the boot. I hope more instances defederate feddit.uk over this. Might make them change course and rethink if they should maybe moderate better.

Late reply, these people are just complaining they were banned for being assholes and that this space doesn’t let thinly veiled bigotry and gatekeeping slide like many places do. I don’t think we need clearly defined rules for people to try and look for loopholes, there aren’t any loopholes to not being an asshole and not being a bigot, you can either be a bigot or not be one. Introducing a list of rules just makes it easier for people to look for loopholes and claim that they were banned unfairly. Better to not give them any benefit.

These people can fuck off, how is it anyone else’s business if someone else doesn’t want to have sex with and isn’t sexually attracted to other people? Like for real, other people’s sex lives or lack there of is not any of your business. So this rhetoric that asexuality should be cured, or talking about them “finding the right person” shouldn’t even be a thing.

@ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone You might want to deal with this on your end too, this doesn’t seem like the kind of person we want in our communities on blahaj.zone.

Well considering this instance does block Hexbear, they probably don’t want to leave it up to chance like that. Which is why I’m letting them know.

Static IPs you have to pay for them though if I’m not mistaken. They can get new ones but it would cost them.

Really hoping they do. This could go very badly if they switch to the new domain and all the servers who defederated them are now suddenly federated again.

It would be good if Lemmy had an option to do it by IP as well, though I guess one already can by using their server’s firewall to block all traffic to that IP on the Lemmy server.

Ok I’ve added you, welcome to the team (I weirdly wasn’t able to comment immediately after adding you).

Admin ping to bring awareness of this situation.

CC: @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone @supakaity@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Oh yeah, that definitely makes sense.

Yeah Lemmy is awesome. By the way do you also want to be a mod as well?

Alright I have added you as a mod here.

Old News, SDF admin resolved the problem and purged every one of his shithole communities.

Is this similar to Therians or otherkin, where people feel like they identify more with an animal or mythical creature? I mean I’ve heard some therians or otherkins do experience species dysphoria, so is that similar?

Maybe we should have one like that here for specifically queer related and queer friendly groups, since exposure on this instance would greatly help those groups out.

Well it’s not like this community is a private community only for asexual people, it is an asexual space for ace people, but it’s also largely public and anyone can come here and see these posts.

That said I probably should post this elsewhere so other people can see it better (also will help more people find this community).

CC: @Theroddd@lemmy.ml

Ah I understand what you were saying now, I wasn’t sure exactly and it reminded me of the “Agender Pronouns” thing, glad you didn’t mean it that way though.

There are other problems I’ve had with Hexbear, I’ve actually been threatened and harassed by several users on that platform, I’ve also gotten some bad vibes in a few communities there that didn’t really make me feel welcome, as a GNC person or as an Agender person. It’s hard to describe, it just didn’t quite feel right.

But yeah I do hope the user flairs get added to Lemmy at some point, it would be nice to have some of the helpful features from Reddit, like User flairs, and either post flairs or post tags (post tags are probably better since they can federate as hashtags).

Yeah the big issue with Hexbear’s way of doing it is that it’s kind of forced and can cause discomfort to people who don’t want to out themselves yet. I wasn’t aware they have undecided or any as options, I’ve never tried to sign up there and have little desire to considering among other things how isolated it is. Even so I don’t think their way of doing it is very good since it heavily limits the options people can use, and locks people out of using display names, which are extremely useful. I think a better solution would just be to increase the length of usernames and display names to accommodate users who might want to use pronouns.

Also just want to point out, it does annoy me a bit when people say Agender pronouns, since Agender people don’t have a universal set of pronouns. We all have very widely varied preferences and experiences among us. I don’t blame you for that by the way, it’s a common misconception about Agender and Nonbinary people.

I’m not a fan of forced pronoun badges as an Agender person. Allowing people to have pronoun badges is good but only if it is optional. When it isn’t it creates a dilemma where a person has to choose between outing themself, or lying if they don’t want to out themselves.

As it is though, their implementation of it simply uses (or rather commandeers) the display-name feature Lemmy has, so in a way we already do have an optional implementation of it for people who want it. It’s just not mandated. The way they did it was to replace display names with Pronoun tags and have them be mandatory.

I will share that dragonfucker has significantly harassed me and sent death threats toward my way, it was through an alt account so I guess one could say that it could’ve not been drag, but the circumstances surrounding it were suspicious enough that I’m almost certain that this alt was the same person/dragon as dragonfucker. The community that was created to harass and target me !fuckdraconicneo@discuss.online along with the alt is gone but since I was pinged on every account and I have email notifications enabled I still do have all the messages I received, as well as screenshots of DMs from the user account, none of them are pretty.

I’m not a fan of gatekeeping people’s identities and I REALLY don’t think we should do that. I do think we should understand the kind of person drag is though, and acknowledge that these types of things like the death threats, the harassment, and encouragement of suicide have no place here, in a safe space no less.