Enthusiastic sh.it.head

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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • To have some visuals added to this, either a trippy slideshow-esque video played silently, or do the whole album-synced-up-to-a-movie thing (Dark Side of Oz style).

    Joined a Telegram group a while back with lots of ideas /materials for that last concept, so let me know if you want some inspiration.

    Edit: A weird animation Youtube autoplay queue while playing solid music is a good choice too. Ideally this is all just in the background while hanging out/doing other stuff and just gives something to zone out on in between.






  • I was at work. My kid was in high school, and I got the news that school wouldn’t reopen after March Break. I was in a role that was already remote-friendly/expected but had argued my way into keeping a desk (had done full remote before but was getting squirrely over it, and I had newbies in my old role with little on-site support that I used as an excuse). Thought to myself “K, I’ll work from home next week so kiddo has someone around if necessary/to poke him so he doesn’t just rot in bed all day”.

    Took home all my work stuff, which was a good thing when the notice went out saying I was not allowed to go back to the building.



  • As someone who whisked away jizz (at best) covered towels from hotel laundry carts for a living for a while, I am glad to have been part of the magic.

    Tip your housekeeping staff if you can - we know what you did but keep it to ourselves ;)

    (Also if you see the laundry guy when getting on the service elevator, do not make the “Is there a dead body in there” joke. There are far better choices, be creative)




  • This is going to come off terribly, but do you talk to many people IRL? There’s no game here, just humans being humans.

    That said, perhaps not your preferred types of humans, which is perfectly fine. If anything, not engaging people the way I describe here could be a filter for the kind of people you prefer to interact with. Really isn’t anything wrong with that, though others may find it a bit constrictive.

    If what you’re doing makes you happy and secure in your relationships with people, then more power to you!


  • Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.workstoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldData can be hurtful
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    If you don’t mind me asking, how is this reading minds? This is watching for behavioural cues, which lend some evidence of interest/disinterest. Men exhibit similar cues as well - think about the guy sitting at the bar, facing the interior with a grin looking about, versus the guy hunched over with a scowl counting the bubbles in his beer. Unless you’re moved by pathos to clink scowling guy’s glass, who seems more approachable?

    Will admit there are folks who see a single behavioural cue and immediately jump to “They want to jump my bones”/“They wish me and my family were dead”, which is dumb. What I’m talking about is more “Oh, looks like they may be open to chat with someone, go say hi”, then noting if that impression stays or dissipates on fresh evidence. Again, the biggest problem I’ve heard of is people, but particularly women approached by men in a social setting, not wanting to tell the approaching party to fuck off (politely or otherwise) because of a perceived or real threat of violence. But this feeling often comes across pretty clearly in body language - if you’re a decent person, reading those cues and and exiting gracefully just makes sense.

    Discounting non-verbal cues in IRL communication is silly. We give out a lot of information about how we’re feeling with our bodies to those paying attention. I’ll admit it can sound kinda creepy when writing it all out, but for some folks this is all intuitive. For other folks, thinking about this a bit helps with being more at ease in talking with new people, whether platonically or with an eye to something more.


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    The thing is, there are signals - open body language, frequent glances around the room, etc.

    The tougher bit for some folks is also seeing, and respecting, when they clearly want you to go away, AND not taking it personally. They may want someone to approach them, but for whatever reason not you. That’s perfectly OK, and says nothing about your general worth, just their interest at the moment.

    Go, initiate contact, and if you’re getting one word replies, crossed arms/body facing away from you, refusal to meet eyes, inauthentic laughs, etc., exit cheerfully, move on with your day and let her move on with hers.

    The biggest problem I’ve had women tell me about is not being approached, but guys not taking the hint if it’s not clicking and leaving them be. Be the guy who reads the situation, takes the hint if present and doesn’t get all fucked up about it, and you’ll probably end up talking to someone who does want to talk to you later.

    Should note this is often just human stuff, and holds for a lot of guys as well with the caveat that they’re often, though not always, more direct.






  • So I’ve since quit, and I understand why even what I’m about to describe doesn’t exist anymore where I am, but right at the tail end of smoking indoors there were businesses/buildings doing totally walled off, wellish ventilated smoking areas. Those seemed ok to me, and when I (stupidly) took up smoking I was sad those were gone.

    The only, and last, one I saw when I was a smoker was in an airport, which was an unexpected godsend because my fuck does it suck to be a smoker waiting for a flight.

    (Yes, it’s a gross and deadly habit that’s also unhealthy and gross for the people around you and the employees who had to work in/clean such spaces, and it makes sense to have no smoking indoors).