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I’m also basing my opinion on personal experiences, as well as therapy and study on how trauma affects us.

However, like you said, not everyone has the same experience.

Forgive me for assuming that something being “Worse than death” means that death is the superior outcome.

There’s plenty of space on your shoulders and head.

I think polyamory happens a lot more than we realize. My old roommate had two committed partners for years, one of whom was married to someone else. Everyone knew about each other.

I knew a thruple who were unofficially married and lived together.

They have groups on social media for discussion and support, where I learned anything more than a thruple is “Polycule.”

No matter what size you are, you can wear a jacket with as many pockets as you want. Travel cheaper by looking like an vaudeville ex-army doomsday prepper with all your underwear stuffed into pockets of oversized cargo pants, three layers of socks and an entire towel as a toga shirt over your other shirts.

Pro-tip: If you have a greasy paper bag they’ll think it’s food and won’t charge you for a carry-on.

I’m going to go out on a limb and say you’re probably younger than 25. I don’t think you’ve lived very long if you think one traumatic incident, or even a series of them, can ruin a life.

Suggesting someone’s life may not be worth living because of their trauma can be re-victimizing. Since rape and violence are often about power and control, statements like those give abusers more power than they deserve and do nothing to support the victims.

Looking at people brainstorm the worst things you can do to someone, they’re all just different ways to take away someone’s reason to live. And rape itself doesn’t take away someone’s will to live - but being considered a victim, saying they may be defined by someone else’s actions, forever - that’s the kind of thing that kills hope.

I might have some news for you about rape statistics - they’re pretty high. That’s telling a lot of people their experiences were worse than death, suggesting life isn’t worth living after rape. That’s a pretty brutal opinion to post on a public forum.

Lies! He’s just a regular wolf!

Is this how I learn Pope Francis is dead?

“I don’t want to read I just want to argue” is what I got from that.

Why would I waste my time trying to prove a point to someone who outright tells me they don’t want to learn more about an issue from a reputable source?

The article, and even that paragraph, is close to the opposite of what you said.

If you actually want to learn more, it goes into how the metrics on PMS studies do not cover enough symptoms and changes, good and bad, to get an accurate definition of what PMS is and what specific changes cause it. Where it argues a psychological aspect its well founded in reputable, cited sources. Which you would know if you read it.

I’m saying this not for you, because you don’t like to read things before responding, but for clarification if anyone sees this. Because jesus christ what a terrible take.

I am blocking you. Enjoy the last word.

That article has about as many cited sources and studies as any wikipedia page. Well-rounded knowledge includes learning from multiple, different resources.

However “I didn’t read the article but I got the gist,” followed by a completely innacurate paraphrasing tells me this argument is a waste of time for both of us.

I won’t be replying again.

I feel like you need to read my comment and the link provided again.

I don’t believe it was, no. I said what I think should be done, not necessarily how things have been done.

I still think Tropic Thunder did it well, since it’s not making fun of black people, it’s making fun of how out of touch white people can be. I’m basing that off what Brandon T Jackson and other black performers have said about it in the years following its release.

Don’t let me get in the way of what you think, or what wikipedia and other women have told you. I’m basing basing my comment on the psychology courses I’ve taken.

It’s important to note that research on PMS has been fraught with medical, historical and personal biases. This is a very well done article on why the issue is incredibly nuanced: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK565629/

The other reason this is a sore spot for me is because I am a woman who lived with undiagnosed mental and physical disorders for over ten years because my complaints were disregarded as menstrual symptoms. I was eager to internalize that because of prevalent media that pushes the idea of the hormone-driven, irrational female, without providing the basis for those claims.

As it turns out, being in a whole fuck lot of pain and having doctors tell you that’s normal can make someone pretty irritated.

Are they really patterns, though? Or is it confirmation bias?

Even early psychological studies from 100+ years ago found that women, on average, feel and react to emotional stresses the same way as men. There are 100+ year old studies on PMS that say women, on average, don’t express more anger or sadness prior to or while on a period - and yet we still get hysterical women PMSing memes.

Media can make us see patterns that aren’t there. Media can change the way people view the world around them and affect how they behave.

I’ve only seen the one episode of BBT, I think the first one, where a goddamn theoretical physicist spends a whole day forgetting the basic properties of light.

My family stared at me the whole time, expecting me to find it funny. Then THEY got mad at me when I said that was the dumbest shit I’ve seen in a while. Later I found out that Sheldon uses Ubuntu and brags about it.

But, okay, dumb jokes aside - the show doesn’t explore any concepts or situations in new and interesting ways And THAT’S why it’s bad.

Shelden uses linux. Hahahaha. That’s it. A good writer could make a whole episode about that, alone, and it would be hilarious. Imagine him on internet forums. Imagine him fumbling during a talk because his laptop wouldn’t work with whatever vidchat/system/software his hosts used, and getting haughty about it. Imagine Sheldon traveling across the country to “fix” an entire auditoriums tech to run on Arch after his failed remote speech. Walking away all “You’re Welcome” as the staff can’t figure out how the fuck to use it.

This is a charged topic that needs grace and nuance to do right. When blackface is done with the input, support and consent of the black community, it can re-open discussions about how black identities continue to be co-opted by white media.

Tropic Thunder is a great example of blackface as social commentary.

Sarah Silverman did it, too, as…I think a statement on stereotypes? There were levels there but I don’t think they were intentional.

Goddamnit. Father Ted and Black Books too. I won’t stop watching because shows are made by more than one guy, I just won’t do it in any way that gives him money.

All three of those sitcoms had excellent comedians and writers in the cast, and they don’t deserve to have their work overshadowed by one man’s terrible views.

I was lucky to get in and out but I’m in a small town and went early. Still glad to see people voting. Please fucking vote!

Air is stored in the titties.