For me its when my family flew in for my graduation and they also decided to meet my sister’s in-laws. After graduation we were supposed to go to a restaurant. The ceremony was supposed to last two hours but stretched to four and we were about to miss our reservation. My sister pressured me to leave even tho I didnt have a chance to take pictures with friends and such. I have mostly moved on but honestly a part of me still hates her for it.
Mostly events revolving around my mother. She has done some nasty shit in my life.
She sat by and let my stepfather throw me out of the house at 15. I ended up living with my grandmother for the remainder of high school and had to take care of her because she was dealing with early to mid-stage dementia.
When I told her I was gay when I was 19, the first words out of her mouth were, “No you’re not” followed by some insane explanation.
When I told her I was trans last year, the first words out of her mouth were, “Are you going to mutilate yourself?”
In hindsight, I should just never tell her anything that’s considered out of the norm. But after another avalanche of bullshit from her recently, I’m cutting her out of my life. I can’t take her nonsense anymore. On the surface she seems to mean well, but under that surface is a woman that seriously has issues with acceptance. I wish I would’ve cut ties with her permanently back in 2008 like I attempted to.