I don’t think you were too rude, but I don’t know what rude is, i’m too autistic.
I understand your feelings and think they’re valid, but I feel like a decent chunk of this is a pretty self-blaming… I don’t know how to put it, but culturally, it’s not an immutable fact of life that people jump to conclusions about why others do things. In this sense, I disagree that “normal” spaces will always exist, because human beings are very mutable. And if they aren’t, we will make them mutable
I think, under capital, it is both understandable and practical to desire to have actual advice from fellow neurodivergent comrades rather than “it’s ok”, but the world we live in is not a just one and is not the one we will always have. We should keep in mind the limitations we have right now, yes, but this will not be how it is forever, nor should it be.
The amount of demand placed on the neurodivergent, let alone the neurodivergent who are also addicted to something, is absurd, and only seems reasonable because the demands put on most people are already absurd.
While it is superficially true that you have to want to overcome an addiction, that alone is hilariously insufficient, and in the case of ADHD people addicted to social media, I have never heard of an instance of someone not wanting to.
The reason why people say “it’s ok” isn’t because they think it’s ok to be addicted to social media, but because the mindset that we’ve created around addiction and neurodivergent addiction is deeply toxic and harmful, and people want to combat that. We treat it as this fault caused by immutable personal traits, or worse, a random happenstance that has no social or material context to it. We blame the addicted individual for every aspect of what they are experiencing, when the truth of addiction is quite the opposite; they have very little direct control over what they are going through.
I don’t think comfort is the issue at all. The issue is that we’ve made addiction comfortable in the first place. We (society ) make addiction comfortable, then judge others for getting addicted. How fucked up is that?
And, in cases outside of addiction, or even things that we perceive as obsessive but really aren’t (IE: special interest in something like fish idk), “it’s ok” is a revolutionary statement. It is a belief that, even if no one will ever accept us for who we are and what we do, that we will continue to be ourselves and force them to do so. In that case, qualifying it merely muddies the message, diluted the subversive implications.
I don’t think you were too rude, but I don’t know what rude is, i’m too autistic.
I understand your feelings and think they’re valid, but I feel like a decent chunk of this is a pretty self-blaming… I don’t know how to put it, but culturally, it’s not an immutable fact of life that people jump to conclusions about why others do things. In this sense, I disagree that “normal” spaces will always exist, because human beings are very mutable. And if they aren’t, we will make them mutable
I think, under capital, it is both understandable and practical to desire to have actual advice from fellow neurodivergent comrades rather than “it’s ok”, but the world we live in is not a just one and is not the one we will always have. We should keep in mind the limitations we have right now, yes, but this will not be how it is forever, nor should it be.
The amount of demand placed on the neurodivergent, let alone the neurodivergent who are also addicted to something, is absurd, and only seems reasonable because the demands put on most people are already absurd.
While it is superficially true that you have to want to overcome an addiction, that alone is hilariously insufficient, and in the case of ADHD people addicted to social media, I have never heard of an instance of someone not wanting to.
The reason why people say “it’s ok” isn’t because they think it’s ok to be addicted to social media, but because the mindset that we’ve created around addiction and neurodivergent addiction is deeply toxic and harmful, and people want to combat that. We treat it as this fault caused by immutable personal traits, or worse, a random happenstance that has no social or material context to it. We blame the addicted individual for every aspect of what they are experiencing, when the truth of addiction is quite the opposite; they have very little direct control over what they are going through.
I don’t think comfort is the issue at all. The issue is that we’ve made addiction comfortable in the first place. We (society
) make addiction comfortable, then judge others for getting addicted. How fucked up is that?
And, in cases outside of addiction, or even things that we perceive as obsessive but really aren’t (IE: special interest in something like fish idk), “it’s ok” is a revolutionary statement. It is a belief that, even if no one will ever accept us for who we are and what we do, that we will continue to be ourselves and force them to do so. In that case, qualifying it merely muddies the message, diluted the subversive implications.