Yeah I said it! The sensation is mid. It’s Mid! The orfice is 90% bone structure and has razors at the opening. Most people can’t even open their jaw wide enough to avoid scraping you. The fascination people have with it is visual, but don’t get me started on that. You know what else?
Gargle noises sound like gargling. They’re less than mid! Imagine asking to hear bgbhfbfhgbbghgbhbbggbggbbgbggggggg instead of having sex. Like, bro they can’t breath! That is the miniature pug of sex acts.
Blowjobs are a psyop by Big Blowjob to make you have dumber sex. 69 is alright though because at least then they moan on ur dick which does feel pretty elite. But it has a height requirement, like the rollercoaster.
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I strenuously disagree but that’s what this community is for, good post OP.
To be fair I don’t like gargling/gagging noises either.
Yea, only gagging noises I’ve heard during bjs are in porn not rl. Agreed they’re a turnoff.
If gargling sounds like laughing, I’ve definitely heard it irl.
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I was about to say “maybe I’m not big enough to choke on”. But his comment wins.
I once heard a very enthusiastic gargle from the next door cubical at a dive bar.
Sounded like fun.
I mostly disagree, but this line:
Blowjobs are psyop by Big Blowjob to make you have dumber sex.
…had me laughing out loud in the doctor’s waiting room.
For me it was the “Like, bro they can’t breath! That is the miniature pug of sex acts.” that got me lol
So categorical no, it feels great. That being said, I will say that the current porn direction for blowjobs is really gross. Most blowjob videos seem to be about make it as uncomfortable and painful as possible for the girl. I feel like I’m watching bdsm most of the time.
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I think OP has not yet had a good blowjob.
Yeah I agree with him on mid to low tier blow jobs. But if someone knows what they’re doing they feel amazing.
Does anyone know why blowjobs in porn are so degrading and violent? As a young guy who got his first impressions of sex from porn, I thought there was something wrong with me for finding them disgusting. I felt awful for the actresses and skipped the really bad parts. Am I in the minority for wanting something slow and seductive where the woman has dignity and actual desire?
I’m trying to muster the courage to have sex for the first time, but I have this insecurity about wanting to receive oral because porn gave me the impression that there is no dignified, comfortable, and empowered way to give it. For me tongue action looks really hot and I lose interest if she sucks too deep or uses her throat a lot.
Same reason so much porn has spanking, slapping face, choking, overly rough penetration, etc. It’s a caricature of dominance fantasy.
Which is ok, you’re allowed to have fantasies and watch kinky porn. But it becomes a problem when it becomes expected / normalised, used as education, or emulated in real life. Which is has.
This is also mostly only a problem in western porn. If you try something like Japanese porn (not hentai), you will see they are often very different in the oral sex segments.
Try to find someone who appreciates being gentle / sensual during sex. It’s more common than you think; though they might need to get used to it.
Plenty of women love giving head and just tell her what feels good.
Perhaps if I’m being more honest, receiving a blowjob to me represents one of the most vulnerable things I can possibly do, because my partner would be getting to know me on a very intimate level by feeling and tasting one of my most sensitive areas. I’ve never really understood why fellatio is widely considered some kind of performance, because to me, the real intensity lies in that level of intimacy, and a slower, more sensual pace with more attention to detail amplifies the experience.
I’m terrified of being that vulnerable, so I would often tell myself things like “women don’t enjoy giving oral” to reassure myself that the threat wasn’t real. But I have since passed the denial stage and I am trying to emotionally prepare myself for it.
So, it’s not just telling a partner “Hey, I like a slow and gentle pace,” it’s more like “I am telling you the most intense and powerful thing you could ever do to my nervous system, and I am trusting you to use that power responsibly.”
Is that what “getting head” means to most people, or is it just me?
I don’t think it’s just you. In a lot of ways I think I’m in the same boat as you.
You strike me as a very sensible and sensitive (in a good way) person. You just have to remember that so many things in the world, and especially the internet are trying to make you feel insecure over these things for self-serving reasons. I think the main thing that matters is just finding someone you’re comfortable with, and after the first times it gets less scary.
Tbh, it’s an insecurity that most would probably like more than anything. I don’t think anyone would see you in a bad light if you broached the subject before hand. It would probably be endearing.
One way to politely ask to receive is to offer some first.
Worked for my first time. In a tent at a music festival.
Honestly, look for porn for women. Most professional, studio porn is, like you said, gross and demeaning and I hate it, but porn made for women is a genre that is generally a little gentler and sensual. I usually avoid mainstream studio porn like the plague
Porn for women is amazing and it’s the only thing I want to watch now. If not for the gentleness, then for seeing women’s sexual desires for men from their perspective.
I used to justify my avoidance of women by arguing that they don’t desire men and are coerced into sex on a universal scale, but seeing those videos forced me to admit that I am actually just afraid of getting my dick sucked.
I think it is often very different with amateur stuff. Not pro-am stuff (most OF), but things people share without expectation of monetary gain, just for the love of the game. They will most probably avoid showing faces which makes it hard to show a BJ. But there is stuff like that out there. Just aim for seeing enjoyment out of the activity for all involved or avoid the thing altogether.
I’m sorry you’ve never had a good blowjob. There should be no scraping, it doesn’t require jaw width as much as technique. Also the being unable to breathe is part of the turn on, if you’re into BDSM. I love it when my partner holds my head down to prevent me from coming up for air, and she loves that gesture of domination. It’s less about the sensation for us, and more about an act of service and submission. To each their own.
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I get not being into powerplay and whatnot but for me it’s more that I want my partner to want to please me just because they want to.
I love blowjobs to a frustrating degree (I don’t get them often) but it’s never been about power. More about lust.
Either way great post this is a true unpopular opinion 👍
The powerplay is an unfortunate fallout from porn. If you go look up the kinky instructional videos from the 80s and 90s and sort of the 2000s, you’ll find a lot of quality videos from porn stars or porn adjacent folks talking about various stuff. The oral sex ones are often really good about talking through more than just the act, and one of the things they emphasize is that a blow job doesn’t ‘involve’ the male. The male should be there, obviously, but his hands should stay away from the head of the giving party.
Sure, that’s not a dictum from god for how fellatio should be done, no one is saying the more aggressive head-forcing is bad per se (personally, I like him holding me down until I get to the point where I’m desperate for air, but not fighting to get off the cock/dildo), but its emphasis over and over should be a good idea of what real people think/thought about sexual acts for a long time.
As someone who’s getting jaw surgery soon because both my jaws are recessed and I usually need kids sized dental tools, it absolutely requires a minimum amount of jaw space🥲
It’s the spirit that counts. You’re a trooper in my eyes
well yeah im not into BDSM at all, i’ve orgasmed from BJs but i just rather have vaginal sex every time tbh. It’s one step up from a handjob for me, i’ve orgasmed from those too but i would never choose it over vaginal.
Oh, for sure, I never set the goal of BJs as cumming, they’re more foreplay before another method.
Upvote for a truly unpopular opinion
My gf goes crazy on that thing and I love all the noises and gasping and breathing, this is a hell of a bad take OP
Hold onto her friend, she’s a keeper
She does so much more for me than BJ’s lmao, I know she’s a keeper
Sounds like you’ve just had terrible blowjobs.
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Being proud of your skills and actually being skilled are two different things.
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Also, tbf to the giver, how much your enjoy the thing can also fall a little, or entirely, on you.
If you can’t get out of your head, are feeling awkward or thinking “she can’t be enjoying this” etc. You numb your own ability to enjoy and actually feel the sensations.
I’ve had moment’s where I couldn’t get out my head and I was basically numb down there. Everything (teeth not withstanding), is too soft essentially when that is happening.
Then I’ve had other moments where every touch of tongue/lips feels incredible. And in both cases it had a lot less to do with the giver.
Good head is actually throat and tounge play. It requires the receiving partner to manage breath control and works best from only a few angles. A good sub can suck for 15+ minutes any you won’t feel a tooth. I still prefer actual sex over head since I can be a lot more active of a participant.
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Asymmetric pleasure is not all bad. Going down on girls can be really fun. As long as you’re a symmetrically providing pleasure then receiving it can also be nice.
That being said, for me half of my pleasure is seeing my partners pleasure so ideally they’d be masturbating at the same time.
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Porn sex is sex that looks good it is not always sex that feels good. You should not use porn to judge if the sex you are physically having is good.
Yeah, professional porn sex isn’t real and shouldn’t inform how you have sex.
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Yeah, I’ve had bad blowjobs from girls who made a lot of noise about how great they were too.
As a general rule: If someone brags about being really great at sex, they are probably very bad at sex.
Gargle noises
Completely unnecessary. Ideally there is more tongue action and less… whatever is happening there
Porn has really done a number on people
Some people are better at them than others. I’ve had a couple toe-curling fellations, and a lot of “that’s enough dear” ones.
This is why I don’t like giving BJs I’m sure I’m bad at it and I have no idea how to get better other than just be bad a lot and hope it “pays off”. I also have a teeny tiny mouth that my dentist has to use pediatrician sized tools on so I feel like I’m working from a deficit. I don’t want to give bad BJs so I just hate giving them in general, the focus on having to be good at them versus it just being a thing that feels good to both partners more or less by default is frustrating.
The best thing about getting a blowjob from my wife is how much it turns her on.
This, this, and this. I like performing the ‘oil check at the jiffy lube,’ and let me tell you, I must be overfull on oil from how high the dipstick gets slick.
Might be an issue with the sump if it’s dripping into the floor.
This opinion sucks.
It also blows.
The average blowjob is mid. Mid is not the ceiling; far from it.
Find a curvy vegan chick who agrees to 69 you. That’s the only animal protein she gets (you consent so it’s ok) so she will pull out all the stops. You’ll be gasping afterward, and not from having your face buried in her pussy.
wtf did I just read
Read it again, slowly
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Can confirm thicc vegan girls slob like it’s survival
Yeah, but you have to be on a vegan diet, forced to listen to LezFolk music, and you’re sneaking cheeseburgers on the sly, etc. That’s no way to live.
Ew
Alright, this is truly an unpopular opinion 😂
Just want to add that this kinda works the other way around, too. Giving blowjobs is totally underrated and extremely pleasant and rewarding.
Please don’t ask how I know…It’s 2026, you’re allowed to like giving blowjobs, we won’t slut shame you.
I’ll sub shame you though.
Oh no! That’s their kink!
Indeed it is :3
Also, is my display name not coming through? I know they is neutral, but…meh, whatever
You mean your display name should reveal your gender? Not to me anyway. 🤷♂️
But my display name literally has a ♀️ tho 😭
I thought I was making it obvious. Sorry…Oh okay, my apologies, I guess Voyager doesn’t display the display name? Or doesn’t display emoji in the game? I only see “Miisha”. 😁
Now I understand the source of the confusion, lol
I see, that makes sense. Glad we cleared it up, lol ❤️
I figured, I’m a helper like that.
Idk, both getting slut-shamed and sub-shamed sound kinda dope to me :3
Go ahead! Do your worst! 💜Can agree, that does sound appealing.
I mean, at that point the entirety of Lemmy knows how horny you are lol
Clearly on top of Lemmy slut pantheon!
“Lemmy slut pantheon” is literally a leaderboard for a hornyposter like me, LOL
You can’t sub shame me if I can’t hear you because your dick’s so deep it’s affecting my pharyngotympanic tubes.
Why would anyone have to ask how you know?
You have clearly never had a bj from someone who actually knows what they’re doing. Totally understandable to have this opinion if that’s the case, how can you know what fine dining is if all you ever get served is junk food.
And thanks to porn everyone thinks junk food is the best and only option
Uhh. Porn is like the Michelin Star option.
All that gargling and mouth fucking is your Michelin Star option? I mean, whatever you’re into bro. Some of us are uncut and still have sensitivity xD
Guess you’re watching the wrong porn?
I can only assume the downvoters have never had a proper porno quality bj, or that they have never seen a good bj in porn, but the latter beggars belief.
If not the porn option… what the heck do you like?
Quiet in the dark?
Sure, the vast majority I’ve had are some much more tamed down version, but you better believe the best ones were messy with a bunch of eye contact.
Your explanation of “still having sensitivity” sounds like you don’t even know how a dick works.
Haha thanks for the laugh. Sorry to hear you’re cut.
I’m not, but thanks for playing!
I always had a slight temptation to pay a professional to show me how it should be done.
managed to resist so far though
There’s no shame in sex work, do it.
I doubt my fiance would approve tbh. maybe if i ever find myself single again
Skill issue
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Username checks out! 😂
