• Banana@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        51·
        9 天前

        I can be either, depending on what the sub wants tbh. I just get off on other people getting as much pleasure as they can have.

        I love a good soft Dom myself but I can also be a pain slut depending on where I’m at in my cycle, so I understand the appeal of both. Hell I also love a good soft psychological dom that uses degradation to play mind games with me .

        All I’m interested in when I dom is seeing somebody whimper and beg for me, by any means.

          • Banana@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
            3·
            9 天前

            Right?? It’s the bessst ugh. I’m a sucker for the “you’re a disgrace and I don’t know why I want you so badly” kind of trope haha, like someone is struggling to reconcile why they’re so attracted to such a loser 🤭

            • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
              3·
              8 天前

              See now, as an actual switch… or… maybe just literally me (?)… I just actually do not enjoy verbally degrading people, makes me feel disgusted with myself.

              I prefer simply demonstrating, practically, with controlled force, that you are at my mercy.

              … you might be be able to mind game me out of that… but I would simply enjoy that.

              Or you might be able to physically out do me, which I would also enjoy.

              Not insults though. Genuine turn off for me, giving them or recieving them. Taunts? Dares? Absolutely. Degradation? … find another switch-dom.

              Now… learning what you like, and withholding it from you? That I can do.

              But… specifically punishing someone with something they do consent to, but causes them genuine discomfort, significant pain or panic?

              Can’t do it. Too much of genuinely nice person, or something.

              • Banana@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
                3·
                8 天前

                That makes total sense! To be fair I’d only do degradation with the most trusted of partners because it needs to come from someone of whose opinion of me i am well aware. Most of the time I’m just a competitive brat hahaha

                Really love a switchy physical power dynamic where power shifts between both partners.

                The mind games and degradation are for a very specific type of itch, however (hint: it’s trauma).

                • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
                  3·
                  8 天前

                  Oh I’m not even trying to judge you or anything, you don’t need to justify anything to me, I just… I am only mean to people I genuinely dislike or hate or despise in some way, or have done something severe, of the same description.

                  To me that seems like the antithesis of … love or just enjoying another person’s body… frankly it would make me feel like a rapist, to be intentionally viciously cruel.

                  Had … a few people in my life ask for that, and I just actually couldn’t do it… fucking broke down crying, actually.

                  I don’t know how to pretend to be… viciously, overwhelmingly cruel. I only know how to actually be that way, and I never want to be that way.

                  … i guess I’m saying I’m a method actor, in bed … ?

            • TheThunderWolf@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
              2·
              7 天前

              need to be someones perfect little puppy and be someones pathetic shameful addiction

              ig the balance is to be different with different partners :3

      • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        2·
        8 天前

        I can only hope that Banana and I are… currently demonstrating at least one way of going about this.

        Check the rest of this comment chain.

        • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          2·
          9 天前

          … did I give you permission to giggle?

          Here, I’ll make you giggle.

          arm locks you, spins you half around, uses my shin to press on the back of one of your knees, takes you to your knees, and tickles you, not stopping for a good solid 3 minutes

          Have we learned our lesson?

          (i am of course presuming we’ve already set up safe words here)

          • Banana@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
            2·
            8 天前

            Haha oh no I am feeling particularly bratty 😅

            I have lived no lesson so long as I can still breathe

            • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
              1·
              8 天前

              … Well, then it sounds like you need to be not able to breathe very well.

              Maybe by stuffing your mouth full of… a lesson, that will discipline you.

              And, you are already on your knees.

              … what say you?

                • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
                  2·
                  8 天前

                  … tsk tsk.

                  You still don’t have permission to giggle.

                  pivots the rear arm lock to take you down to your back, as I move from behind you, to crawling/mounting over top of you. My forearm now pins your locked arm to ground, i am straddling your waist

                  … It’s simple.

                  You just have to ask permission.

                  Let’s see if you can.

                  commence passionate liplock and tongue jousting

    • FreddiesLantern@leminal.spaceEnglish
      7·
      9 天前

      It’s the noble task. Know the rules, make the adventure and give them the imaginary time of their lives, so you can imagine being among them.

      (And you kinda are tbh, those skeletons and goblins are nothing but a boogieman disguise for the unseen member of the gang).

  • Mister Neon@lemmy.worldEnglish
    16·
    9 天前

    I’m almost certain I’m just going to die alone. There is no top. There is no bottom. There is just forward.

    • yetAnotherUser@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
      4·
      8 天前

      Tie them up in front of a computer until they’ve written a 3 page essay giving constructive feedback about their experience thus far.

      Bonus points if a shock collar is around their leg setting off whenever they make a typo.

    • astropenguin5@lemmy.worldEnglish
      3·
      9 天前

      I feel this sooooo hard

      I need all the information on how what I am doing is being received, thank you
      Thankfully my partner/sub is pretty good at it

      also part of it is I’m pretty sure I am a service dom/(and top? idk) and I enjoy maximizing and optimizing my partner’s pleasure…

    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      3·
      7 天前

      Agreed. A sub that… basically doesn’t communicate, at all?

      Honestly, infuriating, genuinely not enjoyable, at least to me personally.

      There may be a few people who want to fuck an actual ‘not a person’ slave… not me.

      But also… you can actually punish that.

      Denial.

      If you … require… communication… do not reward the lack of it.

      If you just let them get away with their poor behavior… well you’re not topping/domming very well, now are you?

      At that point you’re basically a service top, who is also expected to read minds.

      There are different … preferences and styles here, people define these terms somewhat differently… not trying to broadly knock any of them, but… yeah you’re not really in control, if you’re the one doing all the physical and mental work, now are you? That’s at least how I see it.

      Actually require them to answer questions with more complex answers than ‘yes/no’, otherwise, literally sit there and twiddle your thumbs.

  • Snot Flickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    11·
    9 天前

    I’ve been told I’m the last actual top.

    I’ve had numerous surgeries on my booty, its not a place anyone is allowed to go for good reason. Already have enough fucking issues down there.

    Anyway, it would be nice to meet a bottom who is okay with this Shrek-looking motherfucker someday.

  • Doomguy@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    8·
    9 天前

    This is kind of the opposite for me.

    When I was younger I used to switch, but really always preferred being a bottom.

    Nowadays I just wanna be a sub; If someone doesn’t like that I can find another woman who will.

  • maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    5·
    9 天前

    im second- or think im second. i wanna be second. i wanna make others feel good — cuz thats a really special feeling.

    edit: ALSO!!! hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm i wonder if this relates to someone hHmMMMMMmMmmmMm… that likely wasnt intentioned (I don’t mean myself)

      • maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        1·
        9 天前

        whaaaat well now I’m wondering who u were addressing with this cuz I dont think we are thinking of the same person… maybe.

        you aren’t talking about Orange, are you?..

        • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPMEnglish
          2·
          9 天前

          Yes, it does relate to orange, but not entirely. They’re a dom at heart who could only really sub for someone stronger than them, but still they still desire to be dominated.

          Also, I’m happy you admit that orange is a specific person :3

          • maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            2·
            9 天前

            oh ummmm… I did admit it in matrix chat, they were there too and even, completely coincidentally said, that if they at some point should show up in a comic, theyd wanna be rainbow colored. so i… didnt want to make the connection too obvious and stayed vaguer about the whole thing. thats also why I leaned in so hard about Lilacs sadness, cuz if the connection were clearer… well that would sound like I was being hurt, which is false… I’m overlapping, yesyes.

  • TheThunderWolf@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    5·
    9 天前

    kinda me :3

    except that i dont do it the way i wanna recieve it i do it the way the one recieving wants

    i just wanna make my partners happy >w<

    im a subservient people-pleasing puppy :3

  • Shirow@lemmy.zipEnglish
    5·
    9 天前

    I feel seen. I rarely switch and if I do, I know there are some thing that I like and try on my partner and I know that gets them going because it does for me (well I’m mostly right about that, at least to the 2 sexual partners I’ve ever had.).

    Never met someone who is fully top though and couldn’t experience it for now.

  • maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    4·
    9 天前

    you either die a child or grow old enough to treat your child the way you would have liked to be treated… if u feel like it. I know many peeps here hate children.

    • Notyou@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      1·
      9 天前

      I’m assuming the word is supposed to be peeps and not pedos. I hope you don’t know many pedos.

      • maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        3·
        9 天前

        yes, i meant like ones literal children, as in, you are a parent.

        if I knew pedos, I wouldnt mind much, maybe try and get them on a better path with things or help them find help.

        EIDT: whoops, yea ur right, it really said “peeos”, fair, thats my bad. fixed it, thanks for pointing it out ~

      • wraekscadu@vargar.orgEnglish
        3·
        9 天前

        Your cat’s arm looks like a dick.

        Yes, I’m the same person who saw the dick and commented last time (different account).

        No, don’t change your pfp please. It’s too funny.

        • Notyou@sopuli.xyzEnglish
          1·
          8 天前

          😂 I do remember you telling me that before. I’m glad I can bring you joy by thinking about dicks when you see me.