LadyButterfly she/her@piefed.blahaj.zoneM to WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 6 days agoNothing makes them back off faster IME...piefed.cdn.blahaj.zoneimagemessage-square220linkfedilinkarrow-up1401arrow-down10
arrow-up1401arrow-down1imageNothing makes them back off faster IME...piefed.cdn.blahaj.zoneLadyButterfly she/her@piefed.blahaj.zoneM to WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 6 days agomessage-square220linkfedilink
minus-squareZDL@lazysoci.allinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up4·6 days ago Not if your general treatment of strangers doesn’t involve talking to them. Sounds like you need to fix your general treatment of strangers then, rather than fixing your approach to women you find attractive.
minus-squarekkj@lemmy.dbzer0.comlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up1·5 days agoI have a pathological fear of making anyone’s day worse unless they give me a very good reason. I probably do need to work on that somewhat, but I also think many people feel too entitled to others’ time.
minus-squarecaptainlezbian@lemmy.worldcakelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up2·4 days agoYeah you need to work on that. Humans exist in community, we need it. Casual small talk with strangers is good for everyone
minus-squareZDL@lazysoci.allinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up2·4 days agoSmall talk is the cultural “carrier wave”. It’s the never-ending buzz of shared values and experiences against which our personalities stand out. Radios don’t work if they can’t hook into the carrier wave of the channel they’re on. Same for small talk and people.
Sounds like you need to fix your general treatment of strangers then, rather than fixing your approach to women you find attractive.
I have a pathological fear of making anyone’s day worse unless they give me a very good reason. I probably do need to work on that somewhat, but I also think many people feel too entitled to others’ time.
Yeah you need to work on that. Humans exist in community, we need it. Casual small talk with strangers is good for everyone
Small talk is the cultural “carrier wave”. It’s the never-ending buzz of shared values and experiences against which our personalities stand out.
Radios don’t work if they can’t hook into the carrier wave of the channel they’re on. Same for small talk and people.