• qarbone@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    Basically, have a full conversation with me before you ask for my number, then we can see where this could go.

    This, I fully agree with. I wasn’t seeing the situation where someone sees you and says “give me your phone number” because that seems insane to me. Yeah, some positive conversation should happen before people go around demanding semi-permanent means of contact. Beyond niceties, that’s just unsafe with the unfortunate likelihood of some psycho digging into your socials.

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      8 days ago

      Right?! It is absolutely insane, but so many guys will do that. There are so many things guys do that other guys don’t believe because they’re fuckin insane things to do lol

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        8 days ago

        Yeah, a lot of people have incomprehensible, arcane rules to dating and attraction that you’ll never suss out unless you are who they’re trying to attract.

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          8 days ago

          This is totally true too. Each person is an individual and there is no advice that will work to get everyone’s attention. Sometimes people just don’t want to be approached, even if you do everything “right”.

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        7 days ago

        It is absolutely insane, but so many guys will do that.

        There’s a whole bunch of literally insane things guys will do thinking it’s going to get them laid. I don’t know where they learn it from that this works given how often they seem to get told to piss off.