• DearMoogle@piefed.social
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    7 days ago

    It’s a bit tough for me when a guy approaches out of the blue and I’m unavailable for whatever reason. Like, let’s say purposefully taking the adjacent seat and starts chatting. And you know where this is headed and you’re thinking “oh crap… How do I handle this so as to not waste his time but also not be rude and assuming.” So then I’ll often end up with a tedious but friendly conversation I don’t necessarily want, bc his intentions aren’t explicitly clear, so therefore I can’t explicitly decline. 😅

    But yes, “I have a boyfriend” ends it fairly quick lol. It’s nice to just be able to say that when that’s the case.

    Some guys are clever and ask something like “are you here with anyone?” To which you can say, yeah my boyfriend. I always appreciate that!! Because it saves everyone’s time and for me, the stress of figuring out how to best handle the conversation. 😆

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      And you know where this is headed and you’re thinking “oh crap… How do I handle this so as to not waste his time but also not be rude and assuming.”

      I hate this part - having to sit through their introduction and attempt at flirting with me before I’ve said more than “Hi”.

      But yes, “I have a boyfriend” ends it fairly quick lol. It’s nice to just be able to say that when that’s the case.

      Recently had a man in his mid-60s attempt to pick me up while I was watching my kid in their swim lesson. Luckily telling stories about my husband was enough to get him to fuck off. It’s not always enough though.

      • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        6 days ago

        I had a man randomly talk to me at the bus stop. (I was suspected it was to pick me up.) He mentioned a daughter and I learned she was my age.

        And he still asked me out.

        Uh…

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          Ugh yes why do they do that?? The older man trying to hit on me also mentioned that his daughter was around my age. But I “looked good” for how old I was. Fucking gross.

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        7 days ago

        It feels a bit of an accomplishment when you’re able to weave The Hubby into the conversation in a very natural way😆

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      7 days ago

      I feel like choosing the seat next to you with the intent to talk to you already invades your space. I think you shouldn’t need a reason to say that you’d rather not have some rando plop down next to you.