• Hexarei@beehaw.org
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    3 months ago

    My manufacturer decided he would rather have his memories of the “My depressed son” mask he forced me to wear than know his daughter who actually knows how to smile now. Hed rather message me about how hurt he is by my being happy.

    I continue to hold out a vain hope that maybe one day he comes around but for now he refuses to even sit down and have a conversation with me about it because the idea of my being trans makes him feel icky.

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      3 months ago

      ‘I’d rather you be miserable than be happy’ is such an awful, shitty way of being

      Glad you’re nowhere near such a horrible person ❤️

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        3 months ago

        Yeah, given the choice of “be normal or be happy” I chose happy, and that really seems to have ruined his mood for the last year.

    • LadyButterfly she/her@piefed.blahaj.zoneOPM
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      3 months ago

      He never had a son, he had a daughter going through pain trying to act like a son. It’s so sad he doesn’t see that, and would rather you suffer than accept who you truly are. I’m so glad you’ve managed to overcome that and accept your true gender, you’ve done amazing

    • applebusch (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 months ago

      im afraid this will happen when i finally come out to my dad. i already know he was a shitty father and a conservative piece of shit, but part of me doesn’t want to find out hes a transphobe too. im pretty sure he is with how much he watches fox news… part of me wants to skip the whole thing and just ghost my parents so i dont have to deal with them trying to hurt me again. i dont think i will but im still figuring it out.

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        3 months ago

        The only advice I can give you: Make peace with the idea you might lose him now. Assume he’s going to reject you, and be ready to mourn his loss if that’s the outcome.

        I made peace with the fact that I’d lose them long before I came out to them. I hold out hope that maybe they’ll both come around, but ultimately… Being myself, authentically, is worth it.

        I’m finally comfortable in my skin, happy with who I am, and I’m not about to let him or anyone else make me feel bad about that.