I’m nonbinary and I’ve definitely sat around waiting to be accused. I had some abusers in the past who liked to use DARVO. One system in particular fucking raped My ex-wife, but also accused Me of abusing it. Anyway, now that rapist is accusing the rape victim of being the abuser in the relationship between them. So it’s a bit clearer to bystanders now, and I’m mostly being left alone. But I was sitting around waiting for the other shoe to drop for a long time, because shoes just kept dropping.
I guess what I’m saying, with regards to the whole #metoo movement, is that some rapists and abusers have learned how to use it for their own ends. You don’t see it so much with men, but in the sapphic and nonbinary community it’s rampant.
I’m nonbinary and I’ve definitely sat around waiting to be accused. I had some abusers in the past who liked to use DARVO. One system in particular fucking raped My ex-wife, but also accused Me of abusing it. Anyway, now that rapist is accusing the rape victim of being the abuser in the relationship between them. So it’s a bit clearer to bystanders now, and I’m mostly being left alone. But I was sitting around waiting for the other shoe to drop for a long time, because shoes just kept dropping.
I guess what I’m saying, with regards to the whole #metoo movement, is that some rapists and abusers have learned how to use it for their own ends. You don’t see it so much with men, but in the sapphic and nonbinary community it’s rampant.