Some people are willing to admit their “bad guy” behavior. Some people are introspective and seek to improve on their own, some have to be motivated by something or someone externally before they’ll change - some horrible consequences or loss - and some won’t look inward no matter what happens.
I was abused as a child and was determined not to repeat it. The first time I got angry as a young adult and punched a wall, I was ashamed. The person that triggered that anger was genuinely treating me badly but that didnt justify my bad behavior, and I held myself accountable. It’s been almost 40 years since that happened and I can thankfully say my wife and kids haven’t ever seen that behavior from me.
My story has a good ending because I was ready to recognize I had problems in my early chapters. No one gets to write the first chapters of their story and sometimes they’re not a good guy when they develop self-awareness, but some will take control and change the ending.
Some people are willing to admit their “bad guy” behavior. Some people are introspective and seek to improve on their own, some have to be motivated by something or someone externally before they’ll change - some horrible consequences or loss - and some won’t look inward no matter what happens.
I was abused as a child and was determined not to repeat it. The first time I got angry as a young adult and punched a wall, I was ashamed. The person that triggered that anger was genuinely treating me badly but that didnt justify my bad behavior, and I held myself accountable. It’s been almost 40 years since that happened and I can thankfully say my wife and kids haven’t ever seen that behavior from me.
My story has a good ending because I was ready to recognize I had problems in my early chapters. No one gets to write the first chapters of their story and sometimes they’re not a good guy when they develop self-awareness, but some will take control and change the ending.