To be fair I’m a lesbian so I def don’t mind the boobs lol, but yeah it’s a bit too frequent for my feed, haha.
What also helps is being on an instance that is explicitly affirming and welcoming to gals and queers. I often tongue-in-cheekishly use queer and furry presence as a canary. They tend to be super chill and whenever they’re in some space, it’s often a sign for me that it’s welcoming.
The instance is important, because some defederate with a lot of the bad stuff by default. So that helps.
Another thing is PieFed, they have some anti-authoritarian features baked in, which is handy. Though I’m not a fan of the “often low score comments = comment not visible” element, that reminds me too much of Reddit.
Whether one chooses Lemmy, PieFed, or Kbin, all are valid in the long end - they’re all part of the fediverse, that’s the important one. It boils down to preferences.
It’s hard to parse through the difference in instances when first joining lemmy tbh. I ended up creating my first account on world and it was really off-putting. Lemmy.today is a little closer to what I’m comfortable with and it’s being hosted in a state that I consider a good neighbor, so I’ve stuck around so far.
Definitely have considered making an account on blahaj.zone
To be fair I’m a lesbian so I def don’t mind the boobs lol, but yeah it’s a bit too frequent for my feed, haha.
What also helps is being on an instance that is explicitly affirming and welcoming to gals and queers. I often tongue-in-cheekishly use queer and furry presence as a canary. They tend to be super chill and whenever they’re in some space, it’s often a sign for me that it’s welcoming.
The instance is important, because some defederate with a lot of the bad stuff by default. So that helps.
Another thing is PieFed, they have some anti-authoritarian features baked in, which is handy. Though I’m not a fan of the “often low score comments = comment not visible” element, that reminds me too much of Reddit.
Whether one chooses Lemmy, PieFed, or Kbin, all are valid in the long end - they’re all part of the fediverse, that’s the important one. It boils down to preferences.
It’s hard to parse through the difference in instances when first joining lemmy tbh. I ended up creating my first account on world and it was really off-putting. Lemmy.today is a little closer to what I’m comfortable with and it’s being hosted in a state that I consider a good neighbor, so I’ve stuck around so far.
Definitely have considered making an account on blahaj.zone
Join us. There’s so many trans femme nerds here it’s great.
Similar sentiment here as a bi woman hahah
That’ll just be a community that’s visited on its own ;)