there is a tend of people being aggressive now in dating where they basically like list out all their demands and then expect you to say yes or something. it’s so fucking weird to me to demand that a complete stranger pay your bills for you or get rid of their pet for you, but it’s popular on tiktok and all that. and if someone says no your demands, they are a weak and pathetic person. There is just this weird like ‘make major lifelong commitments to me from the get go’ nonsense going on.

maybe I’m old fashioned but when i was growing up you typically didn’t make demands from strangers, you got to know them a bit before you started asking them for major commitments and then you respected them if they said no. relationships were something that emerged and you negotiated, they weren’t employment contracts where you specified everything you ‘need’ before you even met them.

something something commodification of relationships, I guess?