Yes, I know what you mean. I don’t understand tone, most jokes, sarcasm, or social cues at all. If you have close friends, you could try asking them how you come across if that’s truly important to you. How do people express their frustration and anger? Deescalation techniques are good to learn if there’s conflict over a misundertanding. I’ve understood over the years that I’m not normal and I began to actively learn about how I differ from neurotypicals and what I can do to self-soothe when situations became too stressful. I get along with people that understand what I go through. It is more difficult to be around people that don’t understand but it’s not impossible.