Here are a few I’ve heard:

  • “Identifying as demisexual is just a form of slut-shaming”
  • “‘Demisexuality’ is just the human norm, most people don’t fuck someone they just met”
  • “Asexual claims of discrimination are an insult to the Black Americans who struggled in the Civil Rights Movement”
  • “Anyone who identifies as asexual is either an incel in denial or has a medical problem that needs to be cured”
    • InexplicableLunchFiend [he/him]@hexbear.net
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      24
      ·
      edit-2
      13 days ago

      Even before pronouns were in vogue, I’ve been using ‘they’ as a singular pronoun my entire life in colloquial language without even thinking about it. English teachers tend to be prescriptionist pedants though, obsessed more with grammar and syntax rules than with legibility and communication.

      It’s like they think language is a magic spell that you have to use the right formula for

    • BeanisBrain [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netOP
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      19
      ·
      13 days ago

      I once got told not to do use singular they for a character who was literally genderless and non-corporeal

      The person in question was like “editors won’t accept that” and all I could think was “motherfucker, it’s sci-fi, that is far from the most ‘out there’ thing in the genre’s published works”

      • WhatDoYouMeanPodcast [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        12
        ·
        12 days ago

        I’m writing a character now who is an arch fey and a patron to the MC. I use xe/xir as pronouns. It’s kinda fun. Xe got the MC in a horribly 1 sided pact and talks in nearly unreadable legalese.

        "[…] Unless you’re prepared to articulate a revision of an expanded remunerative profile then your harmonious departure is the most fruitful course of action.”

        “You can go fuck yourself.”

        “I am in parallel concordance.”

  • mar_k [he/him]@hexbear.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    20
    ·
    12 days ago

    I’m a cis bi guy in college, with mostly straight male friends

    People have straight up told me they assumed I must be some male-manipulator player who sleeps around a lot. Like they genuinely think people are bi to maximize the amount we get laid?

    I told a friend I’ve only been with one person because I’m only interested in relationships and haven’t felt in the headspace for one, and he straight up thought I was kidding

    Also, I’m pretty masculine, so a lot of people assume I must be “mostly straight,” with maybe a little attraction to femboys. And when I tell them I’m equally into women and gay men, they seem to think that means I probably won’t wanna settle down with one person. (imagine if people assumed this for anyone attracted to different ethnicities or hair colors??)

  • mouse@lemmy.ml
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    20
    ·
    13 days ago

    [paraphrasing] “people with non-cisheteronormative identities should not bring up their identities to people because it’s confusing”

    • Bisexuals are just greedy
    • Had a lightly boozed up and slightly sunburnt cishet white man, finishing his lawn decide to ask me if I’m trans. I told him it’s not his business. And he began to talk about his kid (AFAB, and so obviously trans it hurts) questioning that, “but she got over it”.
  • Binette@lemmy.ml
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    17
    ·
    13 days ago
    • “Asexuals are just looking for attention”

    • “People are confusing children by teaching them about gay people”

    • “People should only transition at 27”

  • Cishet here (sorry) but I remember reading a story about how some guy killed and dismembered his dad because he worked for the “woke-controlled government” - and I remember reading it because I was at a bonfire with a bunch of friends who are heads of local public infrastructure/engineering depts who happen to all be lesbian lol 🤷

  • asdasd201@lemmygrad.ml
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    10
    ·
    edit-2
    12 days ago

    Canceling a renowned opera singer’s concert because he looks too gay while he’s in your capital city giving the country’s one of the most prestigious university’s conservatoire students a masterclass.

    • goferking (he/him)
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      11 days ago

      Completely ignoring how impressive that singer is, that just them showing how little they know about opera and theater performers. Have they seen most of the opera singers in costume???

      • asdasd201@lemmygrad.ml
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        11 days ago

        Our current government is against every kind of art if the artist doesn’t suck up to them.

        Also, the homophobia is just funny because the government let the cult members rape young boys in the cult dorms, and it somehow doesn’t affect the “family values” like the LGBT people do.

  • JustSo [she/her, any]@hexbear.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    7
    ·
    12 days ago

    Hard to pick a highlight but this one always fucks my brain up and I’ve heard it a handful of times from different people

    • “If you’ve had surgery why do you still disclose? You’re not trans any more right?”
    • Umechan [he/him]@hexbear.net
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      4
      ·
      12 days ago
      • “If you’ve had surgery why do you still disclose? You’re not trans any more right?”

      I would pay good money to see this person argue with the UK legal system, who recently declared a trans women as a sex offender because she didn’t tell one of her sexual partners she was trans.

  • OrionsMask [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    7
    ·
    edit-2
    12 days ago

    One of my close friends growing up was extremely Christian and literally believed that gay people’s bodies were physiologically different than straight people’s. He refused to accept that his prostate could offer pleasure to him the same way it might a gay man. Basically, he hated gays so much that he wanted to physically separate himself from the idea of them as much as possible.

    Which was great for me surrounded by that as a closeted teen.

    Fun fact, he simultaneously believed that being gay was a choice. Not sure how you reconcile those two ideas but I imagine he wasn’t thinking too closely about it.

    • goferking (he/him)
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      11 days ago

      extremely Christian and literally believed that gay people’s bodies were physiologically different than straight people’s

      he simultaneously believed that being gay was a choice.

      That amount of brain twisting logic is on par with famers who hate socialism but they will complain if farm subsidies checks are late or decreased…

      These people vote.