I recommend the Netflix show “The End of the F…ing World” which is largely about this.
What I think it comes down to is that you can develop an understanding of things that are not intuitive to you, or only intuitive sometimes in narrow circumstances, and the value of human solidarity and cooperation is true on a deep enough level that there are lots of different ways to discover it. As someone who doesn’t always have the emotional reactions that people expect or would be reassured by, it bugs me when people push the idea that having the wrong feelings is what makes someone a monster, both because there’s way more to it than that and because projected expectations have a powerful influence. People who are angry and numb and looking for a sense of identity shouldn’t be villified for the things about themselves they don’t get to choose.
I recommend the Netflix show “The End of the F…ing World” which is largely about this.
What I think it comes down to is that you can develop an understanding of things that are not intuitive to you, or only intuitive sometimes in narrow circumstances, and the value of human solidarity and cooperation is true on a deep enough level that there are lots of different ways to discover it. As someone who doesn’t always have the emotional reactions that people expect or would be reassured by, it bugs me when people push the idea that having the wrong feelings is what makes someone a monster, both because there’s way more to it than that and because projected expectations have a powerful influence. People who are angry and numb and looking for a sense of identity shouldn’t be villified for the things about themselves they don’t get to choose.