That’s what projection means though. It’s the part of ourselves that’s too uncomfortable to consciously face, good or bad, so by running from it, we see it everywhere. Various religious people call it running from G-d. It is running from ourselves, and everyone does it to varying degrees. When it’s called out in us, our immediate reaction is denial and anger. If we can sit with ourselves and admit it, investigate and see where it comes from and if it’s rational or not, we can begin to move through the rest of the grief process (eg grieving the death of a false self), and seek corrective measures.