I think it’s a way bigger problem how some adults refuse to ever consider that the system is at fault and think every single problem in the world must be reduced down to an individual failing instead of a badly designed system that makes it easy for individuals to fail for stupid reasons
I don’t think “every single problem … must be reduced down to an individual failing” is super common, but sure, some people refuse to recognize systemic problems. There are loads of people who say racism isn’t a problem, for example, and that’s bad. Kind of off topic from childhood development and people who refuse to admit fault when it is plausibly their fault. (And saying you’re late because there was traffic because the city refuses to build effective mass transit may be technically true in a sense, but it’s also kind of useless, maybe even counter productive, in the moment where everyone else is waiting for you. Leave earlier. Use the agency you have.)
I think it’s pretty common that systemic problems are painted as personal failures. Poor? Get on that grind. Fat? cAlOrIeS iN cAlOrIeS oUt. Medical debt? Go do a Kickstarter. Got depression? Have you tried sunshine? Got ADHD? Just make habits. Anxious? Meditate. Can’t find a job? Just walk into a place with your resume and a firm handshake and variations thereof. Etc etc.
It’s everywhere because people want to think the world is just and they deserve their successes. This is just the other side of the coin, that people must deserve the misfortunes that happen to them.
But also screw people that can’t show up on time habitually.
I think it’s a way bigger problem how some adults refuse to ever consider that the system is at fault and think every single problem in the world must be reduced down to an individual failing instead of a badly designed system that makes it easy for individuals to fail for stupid reasons
Well yes but the system gave be table scraps from a meal i made once, so it being bad would mean im bad and my treats are bad!
I don’t think “every single problem … must be reduced down to an individual failing” is super common, but sure, some people refuse to recognize systemic problems. There are loads of people who say racism isn’t a problem, for example, and that’s bad. Kind of off topic from childhood development and people who refuse to admit fault when it is plausibly their fault. (And saying you’re late because there was traffic because the city refuses to build effective mass transit may be technically true in a sense, but it’s also kind of useless, maybe even counter productive, in the moment where everyone else is waiting for you. Leave earlier. Use the agency you have.)
I think it’s pretty common that systemic problems are painted as personal failures. Poor? Get on that grind. Fat? cAlOrIeS iN cAlOrIeS oUt. Medical debt? Go do a Kickstarter. Got depression? Have you tried sunshine? Got ADHD? Just make habits. Anxious? Meditate. Can’t find a job? Just walk into a place with your resume and a firm handshake and variations thereof. Etc etc.
It’s everywhere because people want to think the world is just and they deserve their successes. This is just the other side of the coin, that people must deserve the misfortunes that happen to them.
But also screw people that can’t show up on time habitually.