• mfed1122@discuss.tchncs.de
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    19 hours ago

    Many interesting takes in this thread. The biggest thing I want to add here is that this type of neckline is actually not designed for larger breasts. Large breasts would pinch and bulge around the sides, which while maybe desirable in a purely sexual context like for lingerie or pin-ups, is not usually considered desirable from a fashion standpoint. These curved flat necklines are meant to emphasize the natural curvature of small breasts. I see this sort of shape often on runways and models with smaller breasts. (Granted, that body type is the norm for runways. Nonetheless, it means that’s not a concern.) For instance, these similar dresses are both modeled by women with similar body types: https://www.prettylittlething.us/black-diamante-strap-detail-puff-ball-dress.html https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/aila-rhinestone-babydoll-dress-in-black-64892

    So the issue here is not your body, but I think you are correct to think something is off with the dress. You look good in the dress, which is all most commenters are checking for, and that’s a good bar. I agree it at least looks flattering, but from a fashion design perspective, it could be improved (I say this not as a fashion professional but as a fashion nerd who spends too long looking at runway shows and analyzing clothes). The positioning of the neckline itself on your torso is a bit too low, not because it’s revealing, but because that sort of neckline typically is positioned about level with the armpits, but on your dress it is lower. This makes it look like it’s a child sized dress, just with strangely long straps that allow it to hang low enough on an adult to cover their hip area. Do you see what I mean? The straps are about a third of the height of the body of the dress, but normally they are about a fourth or less, I think. This could work so far, if not for the depth of the cut in the neckline simultaneously being too shallow. If that cut was deeper, down to the belly area, then it may make tiny, low-worn aspect of the dress seem intentional (see this dress by Schiaparelli https://pin.it/PO7V3jtHg), but because the cut looks like a typical summery dress depth, it reinforces the feeling that the whole dress is just being worn low. I have an urge to tug the dress downwards from the back so that, like a pulley, the front moves upwards.

    No offense to your husband or the other men commenting, but, of course they like it - it’s showy and it does fit you well. But this is only the minimum bar for a dress to clear. Models could look good wearing a potato sack, but that doesn’t mean a potato sack is a good dress. Luckily your dress looks a lot nicer than a potato sack! Whether I’d keep this or not depends on how demanding you want to be with your wardrobe. It looks very good, really. Much better than the average dress, and the whole outfit is lovely and very iconic looking. But if you’re the type of person who wants to own only a few outstanding garments, this does not clear the higher bars of great design, in my unprofessional opinion. I think that your doubts about the dress may be coming from you picking up on that and mistakenly attributing it to yourself rather than the design.

    • GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca
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      6 hours ago

      To add to this, the changes to take this to the next level: raise the dress so the front horizontal strap is even with the bottom of the breasts, tighten up the straps to match that new position, and take the dress in along the line where the horizontal strap is located so it is fitted, but not snug. I think that will get you closer to the intended look for that dress. I would say you’re looking for the same level of fitting as in the second link you provided, but even the first one looks a little more fitted than OP’s.

  • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    20 hours ago

    Trans woman here

    You aren’t embarrassing yourself, you look perfectly fine. Looking at it from a perspective to criticize and provide advice (take this with a heaping mound of salt, my fashion sense is pretty underdeveloped), I think that it feels… rather low cut? in general, not a breast size thing, just a slightly off proportion of dress to skin I think, if that makes sense. Again, you look perfectly fine, this wouldn’t come to mind casually. Personally, I think this dress for you is a really good opportunity to play with larger necklaces, lean into it accessory wise. Not to fill the space, but disrupt it. You also might want to ask in the women’s stuff community for a woman focused perspective, not that men don’t have fashion sense or can’t give good advice, it’s just different judging fashion when they aren’t the ones wearing that kind of thing.

  • DragonSidedD@lemmy.ml
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    22 hours ago

    Fun fact: most hetero men (like myself) LOVE BOOBS

    We love ALL BOOBIES

    We especially love BOOBIES WE CAN (almost) SEE

    You have a nice body and sweet cute tits. Hide them if you wish, but flaunt them if you want power over us.

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    21 hours ago

    That is a very nice picture so it is difficult to criticise. Do you have a photo in an angle that you are unhappy with? As it stands, and judging by that sole picture, I don’t think you need to worry. The dress seems to wear well.

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        20 hours ago

        I am going to have to agree with your husband on this one. The dress looks good on you.

        EDIT: I should note that I understand where you’re coming from. The dress shouldn’t work because the arched bust and deep V are designed for larger breasts. It works on you though.

        • Vicky5712@lemmy.worldOP
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          20 hours ago

          Thank you! Yes, I was wondering if I was wearing that dress totally wrong, like… are the breasts area supposed to be full of two hanging things 😂 but yeah, I guess it’s not shocking