When I made a Hinge profile, I stated I was not interested in any men that were not progressives, nor would I be wasting my time on any men that had never gone to therapy.
I got SO many messages from the ugliest, fattest, and most misogynistic motherfuckers just shitting on my completely reasonable request. Many of them also would mention how much money they had, completely ignorant of the fact my base salary was significantly larger than their own.
It really saved me a lot of leg work narrowing down on quality men to talk to, and today I’m happily together with a man that goes to therapy, cries at sad movies, and whom I spoil with my paycheck.
Very reasonable requisites. I do want to ask, why would a guy go to therapy if he felt he never needed it or was never suggested it? I’m not against therapy myself but have wondered what would the benefit be for me with no clear issue that needs addressing, according to me and my partner. Plus they’re not cheap (for us at least). I do concede there could be a chance I have some underlying issues that are not immediately apparent but nothing I am aware of.
I’m in my 30s, and in my opinion, it is rare to reach this age without having experienced something traumatic best discussed with a therapist.
My ex rejected therapy and it was a huge pain in the ass to be used as his personal therapist, so I made sure I wouldn’t go through that again by only dating those who appreciated the value of therapy.
Therapy is expensive, but it’s also sometimes freely available in college or through Employee Assistance Programs (EAP).
See, there’s a good use for AI. You presumably had to manually filter through all those asshole messages, even if it was just a glance at each one; nowadays you could probably have an LLM sift it for you
When I made a Hinge profile, I stated I was not interested in any men that were not progressives, nor would I be wasting my time on any men that had never gone to therapy.
I got SO many messages from the ugliest, fattest, and most misogynistic motherfuckers just shitting on my completely reasonable request. Many of them also would mention how much money they had, completely ignorant of the fact my base salary was significantly larger than their own.
It really saved me a lot of leg work narrowing down on quality men to talk to, and today I’m happily together with a man that goes to therapy, cries at sad movies, and whom I spoil with my paycheck.
Very reasonable requisites. I do want to ask, why would a guy go to therapy if he felt he never needed it or was never suggested it? I’m not against therapy myself but have wondered what would the benefit be for me with no clear issue that needs addressing, according to me and my partner. Plus they’re not cheap (for us at least). I do concede there could be a chance I have some underlying issues that are not immediately apparent but nothing I am aware of.
I’m in my 30s, and in my opinion, it is rare to reach this age without having experienced something traumatic best discussed with a therapist.
My ex rejected therapy and it was a huge pain in the ass to be used as his personal therapist, so I made sure I wouldn’t go through that again by only dating those who appreciated the value of therapy.
Therapy is expensive, but it’s also sometimes freely available in college or through Employee Assistance Programs (EAP).
See, there’s a good use for AI. You presumably had to manually filter through all those asshole messages, even if it was just a glance at each one; nowadays you could probably have an LLM sift it for you