Hello users of hexbear:

Due to recent meta posts in our mutual aid community we wanted to open up discussion about the community !mutual_aid@hexbear.net

We will never require explanation or justification from a user asking for aid in the community, and the mod and admin team continue to commit to not featuring an individual’s mutual aid request to prevent unfair exposure.

In addition, we will maintain a strict “No critical comments or meta comments” on a mutual aid post.

This post is to discuss the mutual aid community’s rule of allowing meta posts: mutual aid as a community, those making posts in it and those commenting on posts.

We are considering removing the exception allowing meta posts but wanted to involve the userbase before committing to a change.

Please comment with any thoughts, feelings, or suggestions regarding this change.

Thank you

  • T34_69 [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    11·
    23 hours ago

    That is disturbing to read, I’m sorry you went through that and I hope you’re at least okay now.

    I feel like there could be more emphasis on a hierarchy of needs in this comm but idk how to implement that without opening the cans of worms that come from basically means testing. That would go against the purpose of the comm. But maybe at least some feedback system that allows people who want to donate to understand whose requests are being ignored or whose requests still need to be fulfilled.

    • ghosts [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      9·
      17 hours ago

      I don’t know what the answer is. The disturbing part to me is that the one who bought drugs with their “car money” still needs help. I mean that earnestly.

      Drug addiction is an absolute nightmare but it can’t even be compared to sober homelessness.

      • HelluvaBottomCarter [comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
        14·
        21 hours ago

        I think the answer that sums up this whole chain is that it is necessary to set boundaries with people, even if the person is having a rough go. We’re kind of over-correcting the other way because everyone is scared to be paternalistic or patronizing or enforcing capitalist work ethic. Under communism we’re still going to have set boundaries with each other. It’s just part of human interaction.