Hello users of hexbear:

Due to recent meta posts in our mutual aid community we wanted to open up discussion about the community !mutual_aid@hexbear.net

We will never require explanation or justification from a user asking for aid in the community, and the mod and admin team continue to commit to not featuring an individual’s mutual aid request to prevent unfair exposure.

In addition, we will maintain a strict “No critical comments or meta comments” on a mutual aid post.

This post is to discuss the mutual aid community’s rule of allowing meta posts: mutual aid as a community, those making posts in it and those commenting on posts.

We are considering removing the exception allowing meta posts but wanted to involve the userbase before committing to a change.

Please comment with any thoughts, feelings, or suggestions regarding this change.

Thank you

  • Simon 𐕣he 🪨 Johnson@lemmy.mlEnglish
    6·
    23 hours ago

    I’m not trying to call you out,

    I wasn’t taking it that way. I just think that your POV matters, but should be treated different than the POV of someone giving.

    I stopped begging for cash when I saw that the posters above and below me were victims of genocide.

    I think this is very noble of you.

    I’m absolutely against means testing of any kind, but I think that it is up to the poster to determine if some amount of a limited pool of resources should be allocated toward them, and failing that, it is up to the donator to determine if their donations are going to someone in dire need.

    Yeah I agree with this, the best we can do is caveat emptor.

    I just think that adjudicating it before/after the fact or debating whose rules are more moral is pointless and harmful. There’s already calls for the user to get banned, from people who likely only read scenario as presented by Adkml which is not productive. I think there are scenarios where the $4k/car/drugs thing could be extremely shitty sure, but I don’t have all the information to judge, I don’t want the user to provide it, and it’s not my place to judge to begin with.

    This is a message board, meaning it’s already a suboptimal way to distribute aid. At the end of the day this wasn’t someone pretending to be in need, they did get a car with the money, this person is still homeless. People should just live and let live.

    • ghosts [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      16·
      23 hours ago

      Well, if I recall correctly, it was a person in need but they did not buy a car with the money. They bought drugs instead. Later on they asked for more money for a different car.

      But I do agree with you, at the end of the day we are all just trying to get by. I shouldn’t be pointing fingers.

      • Adkml [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
        16·
        22 hours ago

        Well, if I recall correctly, it was a person in need but they did not buy a car with the money. They bought drugs instead. Later on they asked for more money for a different car.

        And then were also donated a car. And then got it impounded within a week because they were intentionally antagonizing the people living in the house they were staying in front of.