• samus12345@lemm.ee
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    19 hours ago

    They key thing to note here is he does it because he’s impatient, not because he’s such a nice guy. There is no way he’s not a pushy asshole, even if he hides it behind passive-agressive behavior.

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      10 hours ago

      I think it’s more like somebody who doesn’t respect this boundary probably doesn’t respect other boundaries, too. This is just unhinged behavior, sorry. It’s at best profoundly embarrassing.

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      18 hours ago

      You don’t have a clue what his motives are or whether he’s being a pushy asshole or not, you have exactly the same information I do and you’re making baseless assumptions. If what you’re claiming is true then yes it would be a bad thing, fucking duh, but you don’t know that.

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        18 hours ago

        My boyfriend’s beige flag is that he gets impatient at restaurants and helps the waitress bring the plates to our table

        Yes, I do know that, because it’s explicitly stated.

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          14 hours ago

          Lol k, well she also used the word “help”, and he’s smiling in the pic so clearly he’s being nice about. You still lose.

          Also worth noting that I never said anything abour him being impatient, I said you didn’t know he was being a pushy asshole, and you don’t. Being impatient does not in any way require being rude.

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            12 hours ago

            And I’m sure she said this was a “beige flag” because he’s such a great, thoughtful guy. You’re being incredibly obtuse. This is a post about her boyfriend having sketchy behavior.

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              11 hours ago

              If she meant red flag she’d have said red flag, if he was angry or pushy you’d think it might show on his face, but thinking’s clearly not your thing. You’re free to make whatever assumptions you want, but they are still assumptions. There’s nothing “sketchy” about being impatient either, you’re reaching.