Was at some “food trucks and beer” in the park thing near my friend’s place and they had some of those hot girls in skimpy outfits who hand out like shots of energy drinks or tequila or whatever to promote the brand. Explorative I know, but also free tequila.
Anyway, one was like “holy shit you have the hugest calf muscles” (I work on my feet and do a lot of hiking), and like kept going on about it. “Damn do you run or something? It looks like you have bowling balls strapped to your legs.”
And I was a bit like 
I got a mild ego boost from that.
Some Australian dude pointed at my belly the other day and said “oh wow you have…” And I said “I know, I know, an outie”, and then he said no, you have abs. That was a pretty good ego boost. He then tried to lick my belly button
Those little comments can really be amazing for your short-term mental health. The other day some random person stopped at a red light on their scooter complimented my hair as I rode through the crosswalk.
My hair goes halfway down my ass. I’ve grown it for years and it means a lot to me. I mostly just wash and condition it and keep it brushed, and put it up for work. Nothing fancy. So it could use some extra care. Lately I’ve started using a bonding shampoo and conditioner to help repair the ends and occasionally some grape seed oil. So them complimenting it specifically when I’d been putting a little extra effort in absolutely made my day. I was smiling for the rest of the ride home. And I’d really needed a boost as my mental health has been record low lately.
I try to remember this as I go about my life, and give people little compliments when appropriate, in hopes that maybe they needed it, too.
Not in hopes they needed it - I’d rather they didn’t - but if they did need it, hoping I could help.
Shout out to the comrade with the Munchausen/savior complex who hopes people are suffering so they can alleviate it. Gotta be one of my least favorite tendencies.
Lol idk about comrades but I definitely met some Christians like that growing up.
Those little comments can really be amazing for your short-term mental health.
I want to be the kind of person who gives those compliments, but I’m afraid of people thinking I’m hitting on them or being a creep.
Same! I’ve been trying to reframe it for myself lately, since I think it’s genuinely a good thing to do.
If I complement a stranger and they don’t like it, it’s because of things that other folks have done where compliments were used as a foot in the door.
I am not doing that. If they knew my true intentions (hyping them up with no strings attached), they would not react that way.
I can not control their reaction, but I will try to demonstrate my intentions by giving them the compliment and then disengaging.
If they think I’m a creep or hitting on them after that, it is not a reflection of me personally, but a reflection of how they have been treated by society. And honestly, I’m kinda sad for them. They live in a world where compliments are often given with impure intentions.
Even for that person, paying a well-intentioned compliment is helpful. If they started getting a ton of compliments from people who genuinely just wanted to make them happy, then their attitude would start to shift.
I want to embody the society that I want to live in, because society shifts only when enough people do that. I want my behavior to stand out from the crowd, because that means people will think about whether what I’m doing is right. My hope is that they decide that they should also behave like I do. Propaganda of the deed of being a good human.
I’m willing to accept some social consequences in service of that (e.g. some people thinking I’m a creep). I will be open to changing my mind, of course, but social consequences are expected when you’re trying to change social norms.
That is something I’m always really careful of. It mostly means I just don’t. I’m not the least intimidating guy, and I’m pan so anyone can infer a come-on lol.
On that note, I often don’t do it even when it is a come-on, because I don’t know when that’s appropriate behavior. So no meeting strangers for me, apparently.
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Immediately reminds me of what Felix said on last week’s episode. If you’re not “ready” in your mind for another person to compliment you and make a pass at you then you won’t catch it. Believe in your calves and you’ll get laid.
my honest opinion about hot girls in skimpy outfits
If you’re reading this you owe me 20 push ups
Aw fuck
God damn you
When someone says something so calf muscle-phillic you gotta hit them with that toe walker stare
Post calf.
so did you gay marry her
My partner is a hot girl and randomly compliments like every person she sees now because I told her that it’s basically magic and she’s really into this witch stuff
My partner is a hot girl and randomly compliments like every person she
Yeah I’m sure people love it when you do the voice for your Dakimakura and say shit like “hehehe, your hair is cute sempai!”
I had to look up dakimakura but you’re right in a way. I just use a rolled up weighted blanket secured with zip ties and a picture of Natasha Lyonne (easier for me to do her voice) stapled to it
I used to do the same thing but with Fran Drescher
I have had larger than normal calf muscles my whole life. I have a theory it’s because of toe walking, which is apparently an early sign of autism. I still sort of do it, although it’s less pronounced.
my calves are by a comical distance my most developed physical feature and I have been absolutely dying for this sort of compliment from a random hot girl. congrats!!!
