• FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com
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    3 days ago

    I always just knew that I was wired a little different

    The very first time I read about Prince Albert piercings in a magazine, I knew that I needed one. I think was fifteen

    I wasn’t “altering” my body, I was making it mine, the way it should have always been

    My love of fisting came a few years later, when I saw an image of such passion, trust and intimacy that utterly reshaped how I saw sex

    I’ve always been one to push myself to extremes, but I realised that other people enjoyed being taken to different places too

    I’m lucky, I learnt in a respectful, safe and healthy way

    I really worry about young people learning about kink, where unrealistic porn has been their main (if not only) experience

    I’m forever telling people to slow down, to start small (in lots of things) and that nothing is a competition

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      Respectful, slow and healthy - I’m so happy that I’ve learned it that way as well.

      I really worry about young people learning about kink, where unrealistic porn has been their main (if not only) experience

      Same here. There’s a difference between regular first year anal sex and the things you see at analacrobats.

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        It’s all of it

        Choking done dangerously and without the understanding of anatomy and physiology to even get something out of it

        Ropes that aren’t just poorly executed, but risky to limbs

        Most of all, the importance of consent, safety, knowing that the locus of control is always with the sub, Dom-drop as well as the effects on a bottom, AFTERCARE, and the list goes on

        Don’t even get me started on 50 Shades…

        When I was dating and a woman would say “oh, you’re like a real-life Christian Gray” I knew it was the last date, because those books are rape manuals