On the internet, large cock, abs, etc. In real life it’s almost exclusively personality traits such as kindness, patience, self-awareness, empathy, intelligence (eq first, iq second)

Realistically looks might only push me towards the initial contact, past that looks are mostly irrelevant.

As for sexual stuff, being considerate but also knowing how to be rough and take control. Nothing hotter than someone who truly cares about how you feel but knows how to fuck you to tears (concentually)