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    I am hetero, and it doesn’t feel like a choice, at all. Sex only feels like sex when it’s with a guy. I wish it were otherwise, honestly, men are troublesome and I think cause most of the world’s problems (sorry, guys). My kids think I should be gay, too, it’s funny. But what I affirmatively like about men, in particular?

    Fit guys are so fucking gorgeous, men’s bodies can be beautiful and so strong. And men in general are less hung up about their looks, and mine - they see what is good more than what is bad.

    I like my partner to be bigger than me, at least as tall as I am or close, and that’s much easier to find with a man. And I’m subby but sometimes like to fight back and with guys I know cannot win, I can let go.

    The obvious - PIV feels oh so good, my favorite sex is just sex.

    And I do like that we are different. I am not sure if I would be straight or gay if I was a guy.

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      A second question is what do you like about PIV/dick? Because reading certain forum posts gave me the impression that oral was more important and that PIV wasn’t.

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        I couldn’t get off from PIV until I had my last baby and the ten pound wonder knocked something around in there on the way out. Now it’s easier, and multiples that way are all pleasure, nothing to power through or endure between them. But even when I couldn’t, it was my favorite. Not sure I can explain it to someone who doesn’t enjoy penetration. It’s not how I do myself, I can cum easy from direct clitoral stimulation but when someone else does it it’s almost too intense, and trying to get more than one almost hurts, though I don’t think I am oversensitive at all.

        I guess the mind is the biggest sex organ, right? And getting fucked like that is just so arousing mentally.

        Oral feels good but unfortunately it is a fast road to a bladder infection for me now, oh well. So I have to be careful, go clean up right after. I do think guys who are good at that are good lovers though because you have to be able to respond and adjust.

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          So penetration is a both a psychological and a physically pleasurable thing? Does it change based on whether you’re being penetrated by a dick, fingers, or a toy?

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            Penis is best by far, unwrapped. Like, sometimes I’d rather be cum in than get off myself. Fingers second place, whole hand rarely (it’s more a submissive thing than a physical pleasure, I hate when a fist pops out OMG it feels too much like childbirth and throws me out of the moment).

            Toys I don’t bother with, I don’t use them on myself and on the rare occasion I want DP it’s pretty easy for us to find a guy who is into that, and just have him wrap. If I wanted a toy I’d probably get a vibrator not a dildo, but I don’t love those either, they feel desensitizing.

            Fingers on the outside, cock on the inside are my preference, but I do like being fingered inside as well, just not as much.

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              Does a man’s size matter to you? Also, what does PIV feel like vs just fingers vs getting yourself off?

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                Yes I do like thicker hung guys. PIV feels full, every part of my inside pussy so full. Fingers are more flexible and I do like guy hands in general so having that in me is very good. That overly aggressive “come here” thing guys do trying to hammer the g spot just hurts but a little softer can work.

                With oral, oh heck yes fingers inside tongue outside, that is intense. But as previously noted I can’t receive too much oral, too prone to bladder infection.

                I do not like fingers up my butt. Don’t love anal in general but it’s ok occasionally if the stars align, feel clean enough and want it at the same time.

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                    From clit, fast, strong, intense and sensitizing (I don’t want touched after). From the indirect stimulation of PIV, gentler but longer and can build up and get more & more pleasurable.

                    From combined (like PIV with a tight angle facing each other) the added clit stimulation is great but I like it to stop before I do cum because the ones from inside do feel a little more manageable!

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        Shoulder to waist ratio (frame not muscle - I like that on women too) and guy hands and forearms, men’s legs are often really nice when they are in shape because they are leaner than women. But mostly it’s the overall frame, the way guys can look strong and sturdy.

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          Your words are exactly what my woman describes

          I send her videos of me doing things where the only things in shot are my hands and forearms, maybe a glimpse of my uniform, while I work on a piece of machinery or do something physicality demanding

          She absolutely loves it

          She makes me feel special, even when I’m doing something dirty and rough

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            I like very tall and skinny, or my height (ish) and anywhere from lean and muscled to fit and healthy but on the fat side. Usually bigger guys if my height, I have hangups about my own body. Not both tall and big, I guess those hangups run in both directions, lol - I hate feeling big but also hate feeling very small.

            I have had lovers both a little shorter and my weight but I wouldn’t say they were my “type” though it was fun to get tackled by them - that whole strength advantage guys have is a turn on, we can look the same size and I am stronger than I look but still any guy my size can hold me down.

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              What about body hair on a guy? The thought of being into someone that is hairy is a little foreign to me but I guess some people are into it? Are you one of those people (and if so, what do you like about that)?

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                I’m indifferent. Appreciate grooming, and don’t like a pelt, but guys don’t get to choose that. Not a specific turn on, no.

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                    Sort of indifferent here too but if balding go ahead and buzz it all very short, don’t try to cover it. I do associate balding with testosterone, and I’m older now too, so yeah to some extent I am into that. But not to the point I’d look for it.