• PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
    10·
    3 days ago

    Went to a child’s birthday party this afternoon and had a bit of fun. We played a game where a donut was threaded onto a rope and dangled above our heads and we had to eat it with no hands in a race. My fat ass came first. They were gluten free donuts and I almost choked on the damned thing 😂

  • imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
    20·
    4 days ago

    It should have been my sister’s birthday today. Snuck up on me this year. I was fine and then yesterday found myself sobbing out of nowhere. It’s been nearly ten years but that makes no difference. I still talk to her in my head all the time. I wish I lived closer to her kids.

    Fuck cancer.

    Smell a rose and raise a glass today for her? 🥂

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    11·
    3 days ago

    After experimentation with my adhd meds, I’ve concluded the following:

    I have been taking double the amount required. For 5 years. Insane anxiety which has led to significant social isolation. I’ve lost friends, and countless other opportunities that could have altered my life in a positive way.

    5.fucking.years.

    Im very happy that I no longer have the anxiety. It’s been a week since I’ve reduced the dose and there haven’t been any negatives.

    Same focus, same drive and motivation.

    Except I have 5 years (well, 3 years) of conditioning to break out of. I still have this odd “phantom anxiety”.

    I was handed a bottle of pills and told to figure it out. So of course, once the positive impact of the medication kicked in, I assumed that the negatives were just a side effect id have to live with.

    Lame.

    Fucking. Lame.

    • imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
      9·
      3 days ago

      Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s also possible that the dose you originally needed has changed over time as you have built structures and rituals to manage better (disclaimer: not a doctor; anti-disclaimer: the doctors know bugger all about brain chemistry anyway). Its amazing that you can lower the dose and get the same benefit without those side effects!

      It sucks that you were left to figure it out on your own, but you are doing amazing. And the next five years will be even better.

      and yeah - phantom anxiety is a thing. The difference is being able to look at it and go “ha, that’s anxiety, what’s that doing there?”

      • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
        1·
        3 days ago

        That’s really kind of you to say :) I’m glad the dose is lower now. Apart from the anxiety, my body is far less tense, my mind is somewhat clearer and I feel more relaxed which was the whole point of the medication to begin with!

        The phantom anxiety thing is the weirdest feeling: my body is anticipating anxiety but nothing happens. It’s like it’s bracing for it in expectation but then it’s just calm. A few weeks of re-training should hopefully bring me back to some kind of normality. I’ve never had anxiety issues as an adult before, so it was definitely strange. I just assumed it was the price to pay for having the kind of focus I haven’t had since I was around 12 years old.

        Here’s hoping the next 5 will be great, and thanks again :)

      • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
        1·
        3 days ago

        Same here man. Be good to go gigging again without having an insane level of anxiety.

        As an aside: The H90 is fucking amazing lol

        Had the Crystals algo going into the blackhole preset called “Cigar Roos” which is what Sigur Ros used when they had the eventide space in their line up. Bliss!!! Even single note sounded absolutely incredible.

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      7·
      3 days ago

      I’m horrified by this. Prescribed medication without a starting dose, follow up appointments? Advice on what upper limit is?Told to ‘figure it out’? What the hell?! Is this normal for adhd or was it just a shit doctor? It sounds like medical incompetence to me, and you’re just lucky things didn’t end up worse. I’m glad you have found balance now, but I would be furious.

      • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
        2·
        3 days ago

        Absolutely. The full ramifications haven’t really hit home, I’m just happy the endless anxiety I couldn’t trace back is gone. I’m almost 100% sure this made my migraines worse as my body was tense the whole time I was awake.

    • tombruzzo@aussie.zone
      6·
      3 days ago

      I’m glad you got it sorted out, and it sucks you weren’t given any support. You’re not supposed to be the medication expert

    • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
      3·
      3 days ago

      Wow that’s so shit :( I’m sorry you had to put up with those side effects for so long.

      It sucks how many psychiatrists don’t do their due diligence, and give their patients a schedule 8 med and say go on your merry way. People with ADHD have issues with executive functioning!

    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
      3·
      3 days ago

      Aye. The medical system will let you flounder until all your conditions are exacerbated and it’s basically ruined your life.

  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
    7·
    3 days ago

    There’s the six degrees of separation theory where it’s likely everyone is connected through chains of acquaintances consisting of five intermediaries. There seems to be a loneliness epidemic going on where people are finding it difficult to make friends, but maybe in some way, we are all mutuals?

  • imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
    11·
    3 days ago

    I have accepted that my apartment will stay feral for another couple of weeks until the workload (and election uncertainty) settles and I can stop working crazy hours. I am stopped work for today, poured a little glass of bubbly (happy birthday big sis) and am chilling with some lo-fi on the speakers.

    Food + clean clothes + clean me is all I need to do for a bit.

  • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
    14·
    4 days ago

    I think my brain is fried from looking at far too many houses in new estates that all look the same. It’s depressing how they are all just plonked onto the block with no consideration for the angle of the sun, and without basic things like eaves to create some shading to the north.

    It’s also annoying that the agents don’t put all the basic information in the listing, especially when they have things like the house plan available from the sales listing already. Plus basic information like whether there is air conditioning in the whole house or only one room is often missing.

    I have found a small selection of the least terrible houses to go and inspect next week. It’s frustrating that they are pretty much all 4 bedroom 2 bathroom places - I don’t need that many rooms, but the step below that is tiny units with no space and no yard. The middle section of the market barely exists. I still have my fingers crossed for one of the few older places around, but 90% of the market seems to be the cookie cutter new estate places.

    • Catfish@aussie.zone
      9·
      4 days ago

      Totally agree about the middle not existing. We’ve ended up with something with the right number of rooms but a bit smaller than wanted, and a massive need to remove grey. But as an ex-rental it’s in way better shape than most.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      8·
      4 days ago

      the lying by REAs is phenomenal, trying to make us believe that these places are special or not crap

      • Catfish@aussie.zone
        5·
        4 days ago

        I’ve no idea how they can show some of the places I’ve seen over the years with a straight face. The new minimum standards look great on paper but do Jack without active enforcement and much bigger fines.

  • SituationCake@aussie.zone
    7·
    3 days ago

    Good news flash! The daschund called Valerie that was lost on kangaroo island for over 500 days has been found! Little Valerie defied all expectations and has survived in the wild for all that time, what a champ. She will now be reunited with her owners.

    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
      7·
      3 days ago

      Doesn’t surpise me that it survived considering what they were initially bred for.

      I’ve been bitten by 3 over the years and I was just sitting there not interacting with them.

      They look cute but I’m not going up to one to pat it.

      it is a nice story though.

      Well done Val.

    • TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zoneEnglish
      4·
      3 days ago

      My aunt used to have dachshunds. Tough little buggers and excellent hunting dogs, with a built in snap crackle pop kill drive for rats, rabbits and snakes. No, this survival story doesn’t surprise me at all either. I saw the abc article, and she’s a shorthair with good legs and not fat. Show-bred ones are a bit fragile in the back and some have leg and eye issues, but a healthy young one can survive a LOT.

  • tombruzzo@aussie.zone
    8·
    3 days ago

    I filled up at one of the local petrol stations today. They still have pump attendants and are the only place I’ve seen do it.

    It’s great they still have those roles. It’s often high school kids and is a chance for them to start working without going to one of the fast food places. There needs to be more actual first steps on the career ladder jobs like that around.

  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
    10·
    4 days ago

    My gosh, I don’t get why people are so hung up about Acknowledgments of Country. Every single university class or meeting has had one. I don’t see why it’s a big deal. It is just a statement that acknowledges that we are on Aboriginal land as a sign of respect. I can see how people see it as tokenistic, but I think a) it doesn’t have to happen at every single gathering and b) it is the least we can do, considering many Aboriginal people had violent atrocities committed against them, and many communities are the way they are now because of things brought about by settlers.

    • Catfish@aussie.zone
      6·
      4 days ago

      Broadly my feeling. It’s used too often, especially the more wordy versions. Actual Ceremonial occasions like Graduation, absolutely. Every class just makes it into meaningless jibber. I could support plaques along the lines of public halls often having a Monarch portrait on display.

      (Edit to add: I’ve probably the relevant genetics but not the cultural raising. Make of that what you wish)

      • Taleya@aussie.zoneEnglish
        7·
        4 days ago

        I’ve seen it used on in-work meetings…that’s just mindless performance at that point.

        • Force_majeure123@aussie.zone
          5·
          4 days ago

          My old workplace did it for the big meetings, but there was one senior manager who would occasionally join our small group meetings and go through it. From him it definitely felt like cringey virtue signalling

  • just_kitten@aussie.zone
    7·
    3 days ago

    Ticking off a lot more than I expected. One med appt done, off to go look at shower chairs, plumber coming in on Monday to fix ridiculous leak that makes the kitchen a constant slip zone, next med appt sorted, fixed my mum’s app access to medical things, getting the routine and timing down with the eyedrops, sending regular updates to family…

    Realising I need to get some work done later this evening and on Sunday though because there’s a lot due all at once and I can’t work full days over here so better to chip away at things here and there.