I don’t think it’s the 5 minutes so much as it’s the making a kid stand in a corner facing the wall. I’m not sure if that constitutes “child abuse” but I’d never make a kid do that. Pull a kid away from what they’re doing when they’re misbehaving sure, make them sit out for a bit, but I don’t think creating a shame corner is very healthy
I think that besides all that its also a… weird suggestion? ‘Go to the shame corner and look at the wall!’ sounds like something an alien would say when managing children. It comes across to me that they’re not actually engaging with a discussion about permissive parenting, they’re defending a specific practice which they think is legitimate. Without stopping and thinking about whether it makes sense.
I can imagine some hyperactive children I know hating the silence corner for all of 5 minutes before they forget it was even a thing. But the parents I know wouldn’t even think of using it. They’d retract phone/toy/game privileges instead.
It’s really too bad, because forcing a child to stop and think is actually really good and healthy. It’s just been combined with this toxic and vindictive punishment mindset that treats children as animals that need to be trained.
What is it with this website and shit takes recently?
It’s a pointless regressive punishment that doesn’t solve anything other than to shame the child and not actually understand or teach anything useful. Yeah wouldn’t call it abuse its just backwards and completely useless at doing what its supposed to do. You could ynow try TALKING to the child who is also a sentient lifeform capable of reasoning.
Anyway the post is about how these arcane punishments didn’t stop the school shooter doing ynow the shooting…
nobody out here giving time outs isn’t also talking to their child
this is such a silly position to hold when it’s obviously impossible to back up. plenty of people use time-outs to mean “get the fuck out of my face i don’t want to deal with you.” idk why you believe otherwise, lots of people are shit parents.
There’s a difference between giving a child a time out which is the mildest of the corporal punishments a parent can give, and posting about how good it is to give a child a time out on social media.
Especially when you’re basically telling people “put your kids in time out, or I’ll put them in solitary”
Giving a child a five minute time out is not fucking child abuse people it’s one of the mildest things you can do.
I don’t think it’s the 5 minutes so much as it’s the making a kid stand in a corner facing the wall. I’m not sure if that constitutes “child abuse” but I’d never make a kid do that. Pull a kid away from what they’re doing when they’re misbehaving sure, make them sit out for a bit, but I don’t think creating a shame corner is very healthy
I think that besides all that its also a… weird suggestion? ‘Go to the shame corner and look at the wall!’ sounds like something an alien would say when managing children. It comes across to me that they’re not actually engaging with a discussion about permissive parenting, they’re defending a specific practice which they think is legitimate. Without stopping and thinking about whether it makes sense.
I can imagine some hyperactive children I know hating the silence corner for all of 5 minutes before they forget it was even a thing. But the parents I know wouldn’t even think of using it. They’d retract phone/toy/game privileges instead.
Yeah, it’s a humiliation ritual.
It’s really too bad, because forcing a child to stop and think is actually really good and healthy. It’s just been combined with this toxic and vindictive punishment mindset that treats children as animals that need to be trained.
What is it with this website and shit takes recently?
It’s a pointless regressive punishment that doesn’t solve anything other than to shame the child and not actually understand or teach anything useful. Yeah wouldn’t call it abuse its just backwards and completely useless at doing what its supposed to do. You could ynow try TALKING to the child who is also a sentient lifeform capable of reasoning.
Anyway the post is about how these arcane punishments didn’t stop the school shooter doing ynow the shooting…
Hate this site
YOU are implying that a person became a school shooter because they were abused. You can kindly fuck right the hell off.
Besides that point, nobody out here giving time outs isn’t also talking to their child about what they did wrong.
this is such a silly position to hold when it’s obviously impossible to back up. plenty of people use time-outs to mean “get the fuck out of my face i don’t want to deal with you.” idk why you believe otherwise, lots of people are shit parents.
forced isolation isn’t an effective punishment and while definitions of abuse vary you are saying yourself that it requires additional conversation.
I’ll ask you these questions as well: What purpose does forced isolation serve?
What’s an appropriate response to a child who will not go to or stay in the corner voluntarily?
You are fortunate to only know great parents, i suppose
You really think the parent who is posting memes about “disciplining their child” on Facebook is a well-rounded and loving mother?
I think there was an exodus from reddit so Lemmy gets the lovely reddit opinions now 🙃
There’s a difference between giving a child a time out which is the mildest of the corporal punishments a parent can give, and posting about how good it is to give a child a time out on social media.
Especially when you’re basically telling people “put your kids in time out, or I’ll put them in solitary”