Putting this in neurodiverse because i am neurodiverse and i’m working with an autistic population.

Most of what I’ve been doing so far is Natural Environment Training, which is cool, but every time a kid gets super upset i almost always freeze for a bit before doing anything else. For little kids like toddlers, crying will just happen, its whatever

But for like, the 5 year olds, it’s so distressing seeing them distressed, how the fuck do parents do this what tje fuck

  • woodenghost [comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    5 months ago

    So much self-reflection, that’s impressive! I’m not a parent, but I feel like I get a lot of this, because it’s articulated so well. Also sounds, like you really intend to do your best!

    The goal when communicating is to remove “you” from the message. As a small example, “You need to clean up your plate and fork!” could become “I see a plate and fork still in the table!”

    That’s like classic non-violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg. There is more to it and it helps with adults too, not just with children.

    So yeah. Its a struggle. It’s exhausting. Being exhausted makes everything harder.

    Maybe forgiveness might help with the exhaustion. For the mistakes of your own caretakers, for yourself, for your children. Most importantly for yourself. You can more easily try your best every day, if blame for not getting it perfect all the time doesn’t become so strong, that it gets in the way. Not sure, if this applies at all to your case.