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UPDATE: The transphobe Ada has been defending says they misgender all trans women/NBs on Blahaj who are strangers - Blåhaj Lemmy
lemmy.blahaj.zoneFurther information on the situation with the transphobia: Abigail has
repeatedly misgendered me and defended her choice by saying she chooses to refer
to all people of unknown gender as male. > Hey, Abigail here. I just want people
to know the reason this person got banned is likely because of a deleted comment
not included in that thread. OP called me ~~autistic ~~ mentally unwell for not
liking politics. THAT kind of behavior is not acceptable on lemmy.blahaj.zone,
so I reported the comment and let Ada handle it. Ada tried in good faith to
reason with OP but it was clear they just wanted to fight. So yeah, they got
banned. Ada’s a fantastic lady who’s been great at keeping the trolls at bay. >
Edit: and the bit about me misgendering them is also wrong. Gender didn’t come
into play until after I had left the conversation. English default on the
internet is male for strangers. Source:
https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669
[https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] WRT the statement that I accused
them of autism for not liking politics, further info is available here:
https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669
[https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669]
https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815
[https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815]
https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026
[https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026]
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Ada’s going to be shocked when she finds out the user I told her was being transphobic is a transphobe. How could she have known, why didn’t anyone tell her!? /s
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I still say “hey guys” and “bye guys” just out of sheer reflex
Yea I have been working very hard to remove guys from my speech. Currently liking “folks” a lot.
i like “friends”
hello friends!
its nice
I agree with folks. Northern anglos saying y’all is
👆
I’m giving every northerner a “y’all” pass. Ur welcome, it’s simply superior
Only if you teach them how to use it properly at least
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Methinks the lady doth protest too much
I use folks with my students and in general. It’s a good one.
Comrades is fun with friend groups who are left though.
heheh
now its time to call everyone gamers
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I’ve slowly been replacing ‘guys’ with ‘comrades’ and it’s worked quite well
Oh I should try to do that more!
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But I’ve heard (non-chud) people say “dude” to refer to the person they’re talking to in a gender neutral way. As an interjection, mostly.
I don’t have any clips to share but I’m positive that Anne from Amphibia calls all her friends “dude”
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I agree, there’s a lot of people out there that sincerely use dude and guy neutrally. It doesn’t come off very well in text but it’s cool in person, the vibes are chill. Though I completely understand why a lot of people don’t like it.
And this is a tangent, but my understanding of the word “man” is that it originally meant “person” while the words for adult male and adult female were “were” and “wif” respectively. Then “man” started being used in place of “were”, which fell out of use. And for some reason “wif” became “wifman” and eventually “woman”.
This boat has long since sailed but I think it’s interesting that “man” used to be a gender neutralish word (boys were still the implied default I think).
“Hey everybody,” has been my default for a while now. I don’t understand what’s so hard about making that the norm for some people.
If I want to be a bombastic show-off on stage (which I like to do sometimes!), I’ll open with, “Welcome, one and all, to… THE THINGY!”
This isn’t rocket surgery. Even an old asshole like me can be inclusive with next to zero effort.
I like “Howdy, folks 🤠”
“Hey y’all” for similar cowboy effect
Alternatively:
Surely the precise meaning of words like dude, guys etc. is dialect and audience dependant? Use of English can very considerably just across the US and more so internationally.